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There are two especially damaging ways that self-centered parents can shape how you relate to others: first, by not taking an interest in or supporting...

Have you ever felt muzzled? You raise your voice about something important and instead of being listened to, you’re dismissed. Sometimes people laugh. Sometimes they...

Many of the people I work with are hurting because they accepted the idea that if they long for a loving, committed partnership, having a...

For a person burdened by psychological trauma, seeking support from the wrong people while trying to heal from childhood wounds can feel deeply unsettling and...

You glance at your phone again, replaying the last exchange and wondering what went wrong. You’ve tried being calmer, kinder, less demanding. You’ve minimized your...

이 두 잎을 당신의 관계를 묘사한 그림이라고 생각해 보세요. 저는 이 두 잎을 같은 무성한 식물에서 따왔습니다—하나는 햇빛, 물, 그리고 좋은 토양을 받았고...

당신에게서 떠나간 사람이 왜 정말로 당신을 놓아주지 못하는지 궁금했던 적이 있나요? 새로운 사람과 함께 있더라도, 심지어…

생각해 보세요. 우리가 그녀의 마음을 얻기 위해 했던 것들이 바로 그녀를 유지하기 위해 계속 해야 할 일들이 정확히 같습니다...

유독한 사람을 거의 무엇보다 더 공포에 떨게 하는 단 한 가지는 당신이 굳건한 경계를 그리는 것입니다 — 왜냐하면 경계는 그들의 힘을 빼앗기 때문입니다....

Alright — as you probably know, Father’s Day is this Sunday, and I wanted to offer some thoughts on ways you might show your partner...

Okay — a straightforward question: how do I talk to my partner without them feeling attacked or shutting down? How can I bring up something...

Men — please don’t let your relationship fall apart the way mine did. I’m sharing this as a warning: by the time you finally say...

You cannot keep playing the avoidance game forever. Time evens everything out. The wall you assembled around your heart, brick by brick, telling yourself it...

Okay, we’re live — hello everyone, and thanks for being here. It’s me, the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and Rob has been collecting your questions for...

Listen — I don’t know which one of you needs to hear this, but it drains you when only one person seems to care about...

All right — if you arranged a spa day for your partner or encouraged her to spend Mother’s Day out with her friends, nice work....

There comes a point when words begin to lose their power. You have spoken everything that could be said, named every feeling, justified every silence,...

I’ll always remember the moment I learned there was an actual label for the confusing feelings, odd actions, and repeated mistakes that had shadowed me...

If a child grows up without enough emotional care, they can be especially likely to channel their romantic energy toward people who aren’t actually available....

About one in three people — and a much larger share among younger generations — report feeling so stressed that most days they are utterly...

You don’t pursue someone because they’re inherently extraordinary. You pursue them because they withhold themselves. The scarcer their affection, the stronger your craving becomes. If...

Alright — let’s get into this now. Do you want to know what the most devastating form of rejection is for that avoidant-dismissive person in...

Imagine being told that sometimes the most loving choice for a partnership is to stop having sex for a while — it sounds counterintuitive, but...

The uncomfortable reality is that “nice guys” often don’t spark attraction in women. I know how that sounds, so hear me out for a minute...