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One of the toughest realities to swallow when you’re in love with someone who consistently withdraws is this: the more you pursue them, the more...

An avoidant attachment shows up in more than just behavior — it’s embedded in the way someone speaks, the cadence of their voice, and their...

Childhood trauma often creates a blind spot that makes some people especially prone to pairing with partners who are emotionally avoidant. Those partners withdraw when...

There is always that one person you cannot completely forget. No matter how much time passes or how far apart you become, their presence remains...

If your partner has ever asked you to attend counseling together and your reaction was something like “I don’t need therapy, you do,” know that...

People can be incredibly thoughtless. If you’ve endured trauma—especially in childhood—rudeness doesn’t just irritate you; it destabilizes you. You might freeze, snap back, or replay...

Healthy partnerships are built when both people give to one another freely, because they don’t live in fear of being taken advantage of. They are...

So much of what we’ve been taught about repairing our lives and resolving old wounds is simply misleading. Have you noticed that? The kind of...

Why is it that when he withdraws you instinctively squeeze tighter? Why does his silence sometimes feel oddly familiar or even comforting? Here’s the uncomfortable...

No one fully grasps experiences like this unless they’ve lived through them. When you grow up neglected and abandoned, with your needs ignored, there’s a...

If you’re exhausted from chasing someone who keeps pulling away, here’s the hard, freeing truth: loving them harder won’t change them, and you can’t fix...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...

Every relationship that mixes narcissism and codependency usually shows the same few patterns. First, at least one partner feels compelled to carry the relationship on...

hey — I read a comment that genuinely enraged me: someone wrote, “I love how in your videos the parents are always to blame, no...

Hey — can you help me with how we handle conflict? What do you mean? Well, when I’ve tried to mention things before, it often...

Remember: the only true way out of a relationship with a narcissist is to leave. Staying brings no real gain — your needs will remain...

Listen: avoidant people aren’t terrified of love itself — they’re terrified of investing their heart in the wrong person for years. Too often they’re mislabeled...

Why do people who watched children being harmed almost never step forward to admit they knew or to apologize for failing to protect them? Why...

Some people are utterly unsure what is acceptable to say or do in front of their children when parents behave without boundaries — parading around...

Hey — let’s unpack a couple of double standards, one common among men and one among women, so no one gets singled out. Men, take...

Okay—this video aims to explain why an avoidant partner might shut down during an argument, how you can respond in those moments, and what steps...

Listen: marriage can sometimes feel even more isolating than single life, and it’s easy to be swept up in the emotions of the wedding day....

Sometimes people fling the word “privilege” like an accusation — a put-down that lets the accuser feel morally superior and even use shame to discredit...

If the grown-ups around you ignored you as a child—if they were neglectful, brushed you off, or simply absent—you might still carry the experience of...