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A pathological narcissist can make you feel exalted one moment and then discard you the next over the smallest perceived slight, and afterward they’ll turn...

A frequent complaint from men is that women are being taught that every emotion they have must be validated. Their point is: feelings are not...

Here’s the single moment that tends to devastate someone with an avoidant attachment style — and why that same moment can feel like liberation for...

They walk away and then silence falls. You check their social feeds and see them seemingly fine — maybe even freer and happier. They drink...

Being betrayed by infidelity and dishonesty is devastating. Has this happened to you? What makes it so bewildering is that betrayal can creep into relationships...

Being ignored by someone, especially by someone who matters to you, cuts in a way that’s hard to describe. It’s not a physical blow or...

Have you ever bent over backward for a man — agreed to things you secretly opposed, dropped everything at the slightest call, or stayed silent...

When my marriage began to crumble and we started seeing a counselor together, one comment she made cut straight to the heart of things. She...

You believe he’s untroubled. You picture him walking away without a backward glance: composed, detached, already moving on as if you never mattered. His feeds...

Limerence strikes me as almost a metaphysical phenomenon; it winds itself through the wreckage of family breakdowns. It’s an obsessive, high-intensity fixation on people you...

They disappear like hoarfrost under a sudden sun, leaving you staring into an unnerving quiet, wondering whether the connection ever existed. Why do avoidant partners...

Okay, here’s the situation: everyone is fixated on spotting red flags — narcissism, avoidance, gaslighting — wondering whether their partner is secretly manipulating them. That...

Begin with a common misconception. When someone pulls away—stops replying to messages, goes quiet after a night of closeness, or physically leans back in a...

This is not love — and I’ll state that up front without beating around the bush. The intense magnetic pull, the fixation on someone who...

Severe neglect in early life, when caregivers fail to attend to a child’s needs, often leaves a person emotionally porous. You might have built a...

Too often the style and tone of our arguments decide whether a relationship endures or collapses. So let me ask you plainly: how do you...

So the other day both of my kids’ rooms were a mess. I told my daughter, “Please go clean your room now.” My son wasn’t...

Ugh — why are there always dishes piled in the sink? You’re so lazy. It’s not only my job to wash them. Are you serious?...

So, can someone with narcissistic traits actually change, and is it possible to preserve a relationship when your partner is narcissistic? The short answer to...

Here’s how to tell if you’re trapped in an unhealthy, toxic situation: when the only moment things feel okay between you is when you stay...

You are the person everyone depends on. Is that you? You are the glue that keeps things together, the one who somehow makes everything function,...

Here’s a straightforward question for everyone: does your partner have the right to voice a complaint? One of the toughest things for any of us—men...

A major reason people who grew up neglected as children have difficulty building steady, long-term partnerships is insecure attachment. Often they rush into closeness, get...

I really think if couples adopted a single simple rule, their arguments could improve almost immediately — hear me out: pick a cue word, something...