Irina Zhuravleva

If you want to move from “getting by” to genuinely great intimacy, it helps to understand the four broad kinds people often talk about: physical...

For a person burdened by psychological trauma, seeking support from the wrong people while trying to heal from childhood wounds can feel deeply unsettling and...

Have you ever felt muzzled? You raise your voice about something important and instead of being listened to, you’re dismissed. Sometimes people laugh. Sometimes they...

There are two especially damaging ways that self-centered parents can shape how you relate to others: first, by not taking an interest in or supporting...

Many of the people I work with are hurting because they accepted the idea that if they long for a loving, committed partnership, having a...

If a child grows up without enough emotional care, they can be especially likely to channel their romantic energy toward people who aren’t actually available....

You glance at your phone again, replaying the last exchange and wondering what went wrong. You’ve tried being calmer, kinder, less demanding. You’ve minimized your...

Have you ever wondered why the person who walked away from you can’t actually let you go? Even when they’re with someone new, even while...

The single thing that terrifies a toxic person more than almost anything else is when you draw firm boundaries — because boundaries remove their power....

Think of these two leaves as a picture of your relationship. I plucked them from the same flourishing plant—one received sunlight, water and good soil;...

Think about it — the same things we did to win her over are exactly the things we need to keep doing to maintain her...

Alright — como você provavelmente sabe, o Dia dos Pais é este domingo, e eu queria oferecer algumas reflexões sobre maneiras de você mostrar ao seu parceiro...

Okay — uma pergunta direta: como posso falar com meu parceiro(a) sem que se sintam atacados ou se fechem? Como posso mencionar algo...

Homens — por favor, não deixem seu relacionamento desmoronar como o meu fez. Estou compartilhando isso como um aviso: no momento em que você finalmente disser...

Você não pode continuar jogando o jogo da evasão para sempre. O tempo nivela tudo. A parede que você construiu ao redor do seu coração, tijolo por tijolo, dizendo a si mesmo que...

Okay, estamos ao vivo — olá a todos, e obrigado por estarem aqui. Sou eu, a Fada da Infância Ruim, e o Rob tem recolhido as vossas perguntas para...

All right — if you arranged a spa day for your partner or encouraged her to spend Mother’s Day out with her friends, nice work....

Escute — eu não sei qual de vocês precisa ouvir isso, mas te esgota quando apenas uma pessoa parece se importar com...

I’ll always remember the moment I learned there was an actual label for the confusing feelings, odd actions, and repeated mistakes that had shadowed me...

There comes a point when words begin to lose their power. You have spoken everything that could be said, named every feeling, justified every silence,...

Imagine being told that sometimes the most loving choice for a partnership is to stop having sex for a while — it sounds counterintuitive, but...

Work is one of the worst places to fall for someone you can’t—or shouldn’t—pursue. It can destroy your happiness, harm theirs, devastate your spouse, and...

The uncomfortable reality is that “nice guys” often don’t spark attraction in women. I know how that sounds, so hear me out for a minute...

Ending up in harmful partnerships is a common and painful outcome for people who experienced abuse and neglect growing up. When mistreatment was normal in...