Irina Zhuravleva

People instinctively crave justice. Deep down we need to feel assured that the damage inflicted on us as children was wrong — that it should...

We live amid a constant clamor of prescriptions about how to live: everyone seems to have an answer. Some insist it’s all about willpower and...

Few things shape the quality of life more than the condition of our closest relationships. Keep in mind that a year from now your relational...

Here’s the strange truth about attraction: an avoidant person is pulled toward closeness as desperately as they need air, yet they recoil from it as...

Have you ever loved someone who withdraws each time closeness grows? Someone who appears composed on the outside, yet you can sense the quiet tempests...

Avoidant partners can wound the psyche in deep and lasting ways — and often they do so without even realizing the harm they cause. It’s...

Your body tells the truth about relationships in ways your mind often won’t. While you rationalize their inconsistent behavior, try to explain away their emotional...

People fall in love every day — it’s effortless and happens to anyone with a heartbeat — but staying in love is a different challenge....

Do you ever notice something almost nobody will admit aloud? Some of the cruelest forms of harm in close relationships are quiet, nonphysical, and they...

All right — many ask for communication strategies that actually help their partner hear them without becoming defensive, shutting down, or erupting. This is a...

If you take a look at the people you keep inviting into your life — friends, partners, coworkers, landlords — and notice an unusually large...

What Kelly is trying to convey, as I understand it, is that she needs more affection from you that isn’t sexual. I’m sorry — did...

I’ve been flooded with messages from people who feel deceived by their partners — in the beginning their significant other was charismatic, affectionate and seemingly...

I didn’t realize for a long time that I was trapped in a toxic partnership. Looking back, I couldn’t tell which warning signs deserved my...

Okay — imagine you bring up something that matters to you in a calm, respectful way, but your partner still reacts as if you’ve attacked...

Okay — I hope you’ll agree that I’m effective at calling men out on this channel and encouraging them to learn about intimacy, validation, and...

There’s no chance of winning if every morning you wake up and face a constant stream of food choices all day long—your willpower will be...

Men — a fair warning: at some point in a healthy relationship your partner will approach you from a place of vulnerability, asking or hinting...

Have you ever spoken up in a group and felt like no one registered your words, only to hear someone else repeat the exact same...

How can someone know if an avoidant person actually feels regret about losing them when no words are spoken? Pause on that — it’s the...

Why does she appear to get on my nerves even more when I have to wrap up work at home? For instance, I might be...

Have you ever paused to ask what finally makes someone with avoidant tendencies stop running? Like, what moment pushes them to confront themselves, do the...

We triple-dare you to bring up these questions the next time an argument erupts. Are you seriously that upset? I’m fired up, man — there’s...

You follow every piece of advice you’re given—go to therapy, practice breathing, stay optimistic, exercise, repeat affirmations, be gentle with others, grieve, honor your feelings—yet...