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People who genuinely love you and care about your wellbeing will pay attention to what you require from the relationship in order to feel safe,...

You’ve tried everything to keep them close, haven’t you? You send the first messages. You forgive without insisting on explanations. You tuck away your own...

“Productivity crash” is a phrase I coined to describe a recurring pattern I witness frequently: people who survived childhood trauma can achieve extraordinary feats—performing almost...

누군가와 조용히 있을 때, 그들의 머릿속에서 무슨 생각을 하는지 끊임없이 궁금해한 적이 있나요? 제가 말하는 건, 당신이 만나는 사람에 대해...

당신은 그가 물러서는 것을 느낄 수 있습니다. 작은 것부터 시작됩니다. 예전에는 빠르게 도착하던 문자 메시지가 이제 몇 시간이 걸리기도 하고, 예전에는 쉽게 계획되었던 계획들이 사라져 버립니다...

단순한 규칙부터 연습해 볼 수 있을까요: 뭔가 느꼈다면 말하는 겁니다? 특히 남자들은 이 점을 어려워하곤 합니다 — 마치 우리의...

어린 시절 학대와 방임—특히 정서적 방임—과 성인이 되어서 반복적으로 발생하는 고통스러운 패턴 사이에 강력한 연관성이 있습니다. 모든 애정을…에 쏟아붓는 것과 같은…

부모가 자신들에게 너무 몰두하여 자녀들을 거의 알아채지 못하거나 진정으로 알지 못할 때, 그러한 자녀들이 자라나는 것은 흔한 일입니다...

왜 집안일을 도우면 오히려 고마움을 느끼지 못하는 걸까요? 중요한 질문이고 몇 가지 가능한...

요즘 everyone이 dysregulation이라는 단어를 사용하는 것 같아요—하지만 실제로 무엇을 의미하나요? 그리고 그것이…에게 일어날 때 어떻게 해야 할까요?

만약 우리가 사람들을 실험실로 초대하여 그들이 완전히 이야기해 본 적 없는 고통스러운 사건에 대해 쓰도록 요청한다면 어떤 일이 벌어질 수 있을까요…

Anyone who has been involved with an avoidant partner has likely experienced a disorienting shift in the relationship: warmth cools, conversations turn curt, and small...

Okay. If you withdraw during an argument—something you might not usually do—I’ll be brief. But if you’re like me, there are moments in the middle...

When you’re dealing with someone who has an avoidant attachment style, it isn’t their words that usually throw you off — it’s the heavy quiet....

I notice recurring patterns after reading hundreds of messages from people who follow this channel. One of the most dangerous signs that someone is losing...

A major challenge for people raised in homes marked by abuse and neglect — and this will resonate for many — is that mean, dismissive...

좋아요, 오늘 우리는 매우 특별한 게스트가 있습니다. 아직 그녀를 만나보지 못한 분들을 위해 말씀드리자면, Sue Johnson 박사님은 저명한 심리학자, 작가, 연사이자...

Today we’re going to explore the difference between healthy needs and unhealthy needs in intimate relationships. Underneath most arguments lie unmet wants and fears that...

Okay, picture this: many of us either already have children or hope to have them someday. Now ask yourself—would it sit right with you if,...

Today I want to tackle a difficult question: should you change for your partner? The short answer is no — don’t alter who you are...

Being raised amid abuse and neglect nearly always saps a person of their natural strength. You begin to doubt your worth, lose faith in your...

Okay, this is a little bit of a rant, but whenever I try to offer relationship guidance — even when I start by saying that...

One of the surest ways to slowly destroy a relationship is chronic people-pleasing. Not everyone naturally becomes a people pleaser — it often grows out...

The single most potent way to create genuinely meaningful connections with others is to make them feel heard. People crave that — and doing it...