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When an avoidant suddenly experiences the real possibility of losing you, everything between you shifts. A relationship once governed by distance and control begins to...

Let’s be honest: if most of your emotional energy is fixed on how another person’s dysfunctional behavior wounds you, and you truly believe you cannot...

When caregivers fail to give their children proper love, it can seriously distort brain development and warp a person’s sense of what is real. If...

Your avoidant partner actually needs you to walk away. At first that sounds impossible — when someone you love withdraws, ignores your texts and shuts...

Okay. Today I want to outline the three red flags that research shows almost always undermine a relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you’ll split up,...

Emotionally healthy people tend to run from avoidant partners. Yet when childhood neglect primes you, you can become especially drawn to someone who keeps pulling...

Too often men are portrayed as the ones who always initiate sex, yet in about 30 percent of heterosexual relationships the woman actually has the...

Should men cover the bill on a first date with a woman? If you’re a woman hoping to find a lifelong partner, my answer is...

Your thoughts can deceive you when you fall headlong for a distant, solitary person who bluntly declares they do not want a committed relationship. That...

They share your bed. They go out with you. They might even say everything you want to hear. Yet you sense it, don’t you? That...

After enduring abuse, neglect, bullying and repeated hardships, it becomes incredibly difficult to think clearly. Life feels chaotic, emotions flood in, time slips away, self-care...

People often portray love as loud — fireworks, intense passion, grand proclamations. We’ve been taught to chase the drama, to crave the cinematic lines, the...

Have you ever stepped back from someone you care about and felt like they barely noticed? Like you’re left alone in your room with a...

The absolute worst sensation is knowing there are simple things you should do—lay out your clothes for the morning, send an important email, put the...

Listen — it does not matter which partner we are talking about; I am here to point out something simple but draining: it wears you...

Getting rid of things won’t magically fix your life. That’s the hard truth. We’ve been sold an appealing story by books, influencers, renovation shows and...

Have you ever blurted out something during an argument or in an attempt to sound strong and suddenly felt the atmosphere go cold? Your partner...

So you’re asking whether that ex who pushed you away — the one who acted distant, uninterested, and unaffected — might ever come back feeling...

I see you’re tucked into another steamy romance — this one’s called Secure Love. Learn anything interesting? I am picking up a lot. So, what...

When people think of an avoidant, they picture someone who disappears, dodges serious conversations, and hides behind the familiar “I’m busy.” But here’s the catch:...

The reason many of us fail to establish boundaries—those personal rules about what we will and won’t accept—is fear: we worry that stating our non-negotiables...

I’ve discovered a method that seems to contradict what everyone insists is impossible: getting a partner with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style to acknowledge the harm...

[music] Do you sometimes feel bewildered and exhausted by an overwhelming event, as if you’re separated from the rest of the world and trapped inside...

After reading hundreds of messages from people who follow this channel, certain recurring patterns stand out. One particularly alarming sign that someone is unraveling in...