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子供期のトラウマに関するあなたの目に触れるほとんどすべてが、それがどれほどひどいことか、あなたがどれほど壊れているか、そしてあなたを傷つけた人々がどれほどひどい人間であったかを強調しています……

Okay、関係性を単純化してみましょう。あなたがた、またはパートナーが、意図的であれ無意識的であれ、信頼、親密さ、感情的な安全、または健全なコミュニケーションを築くことを望まない場合...

私はいつも、自分が苦しんでいた状態に正式な名前があることを発見した瞬間を覚えているだろう—奇妙な行動、感情の奔流….

「さっき考えてたんだけど、もっと私たちの中で性的な親密さを求めてる？」 「え？性的な親密さって、どういう意味ですか？」 「つまり、もっと…」

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男性諸君、私があなたたちに見てもらいたいことがある。それは、あなたがたと付き合っている多くの女性たちが伝え出すのに苦労していることだ。彼らはたいてい、自分の必要としているものを求めることができないのだ…

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