Irina Zhuravleva

there is a powerful link between childhood abuse and neglect—especially emotional neglect—and a recurring, painful pattern in adulthood of investing all your affection into an...

When parents are so wrapped up in themselves that they barely notice or truly know their children, it’s common for those children to grow up...

Why is it that even when you pitch in around the house she still seems unappreciative? That’s an important question and there are several possible...

Everyone seems to be using the word dysregulation these days—but what does it actually refer to? And what can you do when it happens to...

What might happen if we invited people into a lab and asked them to write about a painful event they had never fully talked through...

Anyone who has been involved with an avoidant partner has likely experienced a disorienting shift in the relationship: warmth cools, conversations turn curt, and small...

Okay. If you withdraw during an argument—something you might not usually do—I’ll be brief. But if you’re like me, there are moments in the middle...

When you’re dealing with someone who has an avoidant attachment style, it isn’t their words that usually throw you off — it’s the heavy quiet....

I notice recurring patterns after reading hundreds of messages from people who follow this channel. One of the most dangerous signs that someone is losing...

A major challenge for people raised in homes marked by abuse and neglect — and this will resonate for many — is that mean, dismissive...

Okay, today we have an extraordinarily special guest. For those who haven’t met her yet, Dr. Sue Johnson is a distinguished psychologist, author, speaker and...

What I’m teaching men is how to show up as themselves — genuine, transparent, truthful, willing to be vulnerable — and to practice that honesty...

One of the most corrosive aftereffects of enduring abuse is how it warps your inner life. Your emotions go offline. You feel disconnected. It becomes...

Would you be prepared to pose this question to your partner: when was the last time you felt lonely in this relationship? From what I...

Have you noticed that in most relationships one person tends to be the more self-reliant partner? If you’re unsure which side that is in your...

Ce n'était pas de la violence physique. C'était silencieux. Cela se manifestait par des commentaires murmurés, le silence soudain lorsque vous entrez dans une pièce, des sourires forcés, se rendre compte que vous avez été...

Vous êtes-vous déjà arrêté pour vous demander si vous étiez narcissique, ou du moins si vous manifestiez parfois des comportements narcissiques ? Si vous avez grandi dans un environnement abusif...

Aujourd'hui, nous allons explorer la différence entre les besoins sains et les besoins malsains dans les relations intimes. Sous la plupart des disputes se cachent des envies et des peurs non satisfaites qui...

Okay, imaginez ceci : beaucoup d'entre nous ont déjà des enfants ou espèrent en avoir un jour. Maintenant, demandez-vous : est-ce que cela vous semblerait juste si,...

Aujourd'hui, je veux aborder une question difficile : devriez-vous changer pour votre partenaire ? La réponse courte est non — n'altérez pas qui vous êtes...

Being raised amid abuse and neglect nearly always saps a person of their natural strength. You begin to doubt your worth, lose faith in your...

Okay, ce sera un peu de tirade, mais chaque fois que j'essaie de donner des conseils en matière de relations — même lorsque je commence par dire que...

L'une des façons les plus sûres de détruire lentement une relation est le plaisir excessif des autres. Tout le monde ne devient pas naturellement un adoubé — cela grandit souvent...

La façon la plus puissante de créer des liens véritablement significatifs avec les autres est de les faire se sentir entendus. Les gens en ont besoin — et le faire...