Irina Zhuravleva

The first time I ran across the phrase “emotional sobriety,” it shook me — not because I didn’t understand the words, but because it sounded...

“Don’t go to bed angry,” “a good relationship means never having to say you’re sorry,” “your partner should complete you,” and “your relationship’s purpose is...

It’s common to believe that once a severe traumatic chapter ends, everything should return to normal. The reality is different: after trauma you’re often fragile—not...

I made a video joking about a husband who forgot his wife’s birthday, and someone commented, “maybe you should just remind them if it’s so...

There’s a clear and crucial distinction between beneficial stress and harmful stress — and the main difference lies in duration, intensity and timing. Beneficial stress...

“Hey, can I borrow your phone for a minute? I need to look something up.” “Where’s your phone?” “It’s in the other room.” “Can I...

The uncomfortable reality is that “nice guys” often don’t spark attraction in women. I know how that sounds, so hear me out for a minute...

Alright — let’s get into this now. Do you want to know what the most devastating form of rejection is for that avoidant-dismissive person in...

One major issue affecting countless people is staying in relationships that, realistically, have little chance of flourishing. Many remain stuck because nobody has clearly reminded...

The saddest part about childhood trauma, to me, is seeing so many people move through life with a battered spirit — their self-assurance, hope, and...

Work is one of the worst places to fall for someone you can’t—or shouldn’t—pursue. It can destroy your happiness, harm theirs, devastate your spouse, and...

Imagine being told that sometimes the most loving choice for a partnership is to stop having sex for a while — it sounds counterintuitive, but...

You don’t pursue someone because they’re inherently extraordinary. You pursue them because they withhold themselves. The scarcer their affection, the stronger your craving becomes. If...

Some of the most dangerous people you’ll ever encounter are the ones who never raise their voice. They won’t slam doors or hurl curses. Instead,...

Ending up in harmful partnerships is a common and painful outcome for people who experienced abuse and neglect growing up. When mistreatment was normal in...

Okay — question du jour : ma petite amie exprime généralement son énergie d'une manière plus masculine. Est-ce qu'il y a quelque chose que je puisse faire pour l'aider...

Avoidant partners don’t step back because they don’t care — they step back because closeness can overwhelm them. Breathe. If you love someone who withdraws,...

Soyons honnêtes : vous êtes ici parce que quelque chose dans cette situation vous semble louche. Vous rencontrez enfin quelqu'un qui vous éveille, vous baissez vos défenses, vous commencez...

Okay — commençons 2023 en nous rappelant quelques vérités fondamentales sur les relations. Une : vous méritez le respect, la gentillesse, l'appréciation, la considération et quelqu'un qui...

Oh mon Dieu, chérie - si on l'achète aujourd'hui, ils rajouteront un extra 25% en plus des 50% qu'ils avaient déjà, d'accord ?…

I will never forget the day I finally heard a name for the collection of odd emotions, behaviors, and repeating mistakes that I couldn’t seem...

To spare you the long email: if you’re in a relationship with a man and you constantly feel invisible, unheard, neglected, or consistently dismissed, the...

I’m a little ashamed at how simple it turned out to be to revive my wife’s sexual interest. This wasn’t about trickery — I never...

Hey babe, can we go grab that plant I spotted at the nursery? Well, hold on — I was just wondering, don’t you think we...