Irina Zhuravleva

We triple-dare you to bring up these questions the next time an argument erupts. Are you seriously that upset? I’m fired up, man — there’s...

Messieurs — un avertissement juste : à un moment donné dans une relation saine, votre partenaire vous abordera d'un lieu de vulnérabilité, en demandant ou en laissant entendre...

Pourquoi semble-t-elle m'agacer encore plus lorsque je dois finir mon travail à la maison ? Par exemple, je pourrais être...

Vous suivez chaque conseil que l’on vous donne—allez en thérapie, pratiquez la respiration, restez optimiste, faites de l’exercice, répétez des affirmations, soyez doux avec les autres, faites votre deuil, honorez vos sentiments—pourtant…

Vous êtes-vous déjà arrêté(e) pour vous demander ce qui fait finalement arrêter quelqu'un ayant des tendances évitantes ? Genre, quel moment les pousse à se confronter à eux-mêmes, à faire la...

Okay — imaginez que vous soulevez quelque chose qui vous importe d'une manière calme et respectueuse, mais votre partenaire réagit toujours comme si vous l'aviez attaqué...

J'ai été submergé de messages de personnes qui se sentent trahies par leurs partenaires — au début, leur être cher était charismatique, affectueux et semblait...

Imagine if you began responding to them exactly as they respond to you. Imagine if you invested in this relationship only to the same degree...

When we discuss trauma, we often concentrate on the outward expressions — the outbursts, the acting out — but there’s another way trauma steers your...

Soyez attentif, car cela peut paraître contre-intuitif au premier abord : le moyen le plus rapide de cesser de laisser un partenaire distant — celui qui fuit la proximité, se ferme...

What ultimately undoes an anxious–avoidant pair is rarely a deficit of affection. Both people would probably insist they care deeply for one another. The real...

There is a nearly universal, powerful trigger for symptoms of childhood PTSD — and chances are you experience it. Many people do, not only those...

A people-pleaser is someone who suppresses their genuine reactions during interactions, abandoning their own choices about what to do, what to say, and who to...

From reading hundreds of letters sent by people who follow this channel, certain patterns emerge. One particularly worrying indicator that someone is deteriorating in an...

Sometimes silence speaks louder than any shout. It does not scream, chase, or beg; it simply exists. Yet everything can shift when someone who habitually...

People often remain in harmful relationships because the mistreatment is not constant. In trauma bonds especially, a pattern of unpredictable kindness and cruelty conditions the...

That sickening twist in your stomach when someone you love — someone you’ve been pouring effort into — suddenly acts as though you don’t matter:...

If you have feelings for someone but keep them hidden because you know they aren’t really available, pretending it’s “just friendship,” don’t be astonished when...

When an entire family turns on one of its members, it is a profoundly harmful form of abuse. Sometimes this takes the shape of scapegoating,...

If you grew up with trauma, you already know how past experiences can resurface and set off thoughts, reactions and habits that undermine your performance...

Pleasing others will almost certainly wreck your relationships — and many of you are guilty of it. You might ask: Jimmy, how do I tell...

Listen: I can’t fix a relationship unless both partners agree to a shared set of principles and values. If even one person refuses to live...

Love itself doesn’t cause pain. People who haven’t learned how to love do. Sit with that for a second. If you have ever been in...

Quand un désaccord se transforme en critique de la part de votre partenaire, comment devriez-vous réagir ? Tout d'abord, il est utile de reconnaître que la critique et la plainte ne sont pas les...