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Your thoughts can deceive you when you fall headlong for a distant, solitary person who bluntly declares they do not want a committed relationship. That...

Your avoidant partner actually needs you to walk away. At first that sounds impossible — when someone you love withdraws, ignores your texts and shuts...

Okay. Today I want to outline the three red flags that research shows almost always undermine a relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you’ll split up,...

Should men cover the bill on a first date with a woman? If you’re a woman hoping to find a lifelong partner, my answer is...

Too often men are portrayed as the ones who always initiate sex, yet in about 30 percent of heterosexual relationships the woman actually has the...

Emotionally healthy people tend to run from avoidant partners. Yet when childhood neglect primes you, you can become especially drawn to someone who keeps pulling...

Earlier I spoke about why I don’t think it’s a good idea to send your husband certain clips of mine if he tends to feel...

Let’s be honest: if most of your emotional energy is fixed on how another person’s dysfunctional behavior wounds you, and you truly believe you cannot...

They share your bed. They go out with you. They might even say everything you want to hear. Yet you sense it, don’t you? That...

So you’re asking whether that ex who pushed you away — the one who acted distant, uninterested, and unaffected — might ever come back feeling...

Have you ever blurted out something during an argument or in an attempt to sound strong and suddenly felt the atmosphere go cold? Your partner...

After enduring abuse, neglect, bullying and repeated hardships, it becomes incredibly difficult to think clearly. Life feels chaotic, emotions flood in, time slips away, self-care...

Have you ever stepped back from someone you care about and felt like they barely noticed? Like you’re left alone in your room with a...

The absolute worst sensation is knowing there are simple things you should do—lay out your clothes for the morning, send an important email, put the...

Practical steps to honor your worth Knowing your worth feels good, but it becomes powerful when you pair it with action. These concrete steps will...

There’s one major consequence of trauma that most people aren’t aware of. It’s powerful and can seriously limit your life. While it isn’t exclusive to...

Getting rid of things won’t magically fix your life. That’s the hard truth. We’ve been sold an appealing story by books, influencers, renovation shows and...

Listen — it does not matter which partner we are talking about; I am here to point out something simple but draining: it wears you...

I see you’re tucked into another steamy romance — this one’s called Secure Love. Learn anything interesting? I am picking up a lot. So, what...

[music] Do you sometimes feel bewildered and exhausted by an overwhelming event, as if you’re separated from the rest of the world and trapped inside...

The reason many of us fail to establish boundaries—those personal rules about what we will and won’t accept—is fear: we worry that stating our non-negotiables...

After reading hundreds of messages from people who follow this channel, certain recurring patterns stand out. One particularly alarming sign that someone is unraveling in...

here’s a radical thought: what if, for once, we actually tried to love one another? what if in just one conversation we stopped performing the...

When people think of an avoidant, they picture someone who disappears, dodges serious conversations, and hides behind the familiar “I’m busy.” But here’s the catch:...