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Let’s be honest: you’re here because something about this situation feels wrong. You finally find someone who awakens you, you lower your defenses, you begin...

To spare you the long email: if you’re in a relationship with a man and you constantly feel invisible, unheard, neglected, or consistently dismissed, the...

I made a video about how tone-deaf it can feel when a man walks in after a half-hour commute and then expects another half hour...

I’m a little ashamed at how simple it turned out to be to revive my wife’s sexual interest. This wasn’t about trickery — I never...

Hey babe, can we go grab that plant I spotted at the nursery? Well, hold on — I was just wondering, don’t you think we...

Arguably the single biggest destroyer of relationships is emotional dysregulation: when we become flooded, anxious, or furious and fear that everything inside us is about...

A lot of people feel like they can’t truly connect with others anymore. If you keep trying but conversations stay surface-level, friendships never form, or...

If you often find yourself zoning out, snapping at others, or feeling your heart race for no obvious reason, your body may be trying to...

It’s understandable why people hide things or bend the truth in a relationship: they often believe they’re shielding their partner from pain, trying to avoid...

Earlier I spoke about why I don’t think it’s a good idea to send your husband certain clips of mine if he tends to feel...

When an avoidant suddenly experiences the real possibility of losing you, everything between you shifts. A relationship once governed by distance and control begins to...

Let’s be honest: if most of your emotional energy is fixed on how another person’s dysfunctional behavior wounds you, and you truly believe you cannot...

When caregivers fail to give their children proper love, it can seriously distort brain development and warp a person’s sense of what is real. If...

Your avoidant partner actually needs you to walk away. At first that sounds impossible — when someone you love withdraws, ignores your texts and shuts...

Your thoughts can deceive you when you fall headlong for a distant, solitary person who bluntly declares they do not want a committed relationship. That...

Should men cover the bill on a first date with a woman? If you’re a woman hoping to find a lifelong partner, my answer is...

Emotionally healthy people tend to run from avoidant partners. Yet when childhood neglect primes you, you can become especially drawn to someone who keeps pulling...

Too often men are portrayed as the ones who always initiate sex, yet in about 30 percent of heterosexual relationships the woman actually has the...

Okay. Today I want to outline the three red flags that research shows almost always undermine a relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you’ll split up,...

Practical steps to honor your worth Knowing your worth feels good, but it becomes powerful when you pair it with action. These concrete steps will...

People often portray love as loud — fireworks, intense passion, grand proclamations. We’ve been taught to chase the drama, to crave the cinematic lines, the...

Getting rid of things won’t magically fix your life. That’s the hard truth. We’ve been sold an appealing story by books, influencers, renovation shows and...

Have you ever blurted out something during an argument or in an attempt to sound strong and suddenly felt the atmosphere go cold? Your partner...

There’s one major consequence of trauma that most people aren’t aware of. It’s powerful and can seriously limit your life. While it isn’t exclusive to...