Ирина Журавлева

Anxious attachment wrecked nearly every romantic relationship I’ve been in. I was convinced that closeness meant always putting someone else’s feelings and needs before my...

Why is it always the anxious partner who ends up adjusting for the avoidant? What do you mean by “adjusting”? I mean it’s constantly the...

They vanish when you least expect it. One day they’re warm, engaging, and saying all the right things; the next day there is only quiet....

there’s always a risk when you take part in 12-step groups or join online meetings made up of people who are there because they have...

Stop immediately. Put the phone down. Stop re-reading old conversations. Stop scrolling through their profile. And stop torturing yourself with the question of what you...

People often mix things up: you can establish boundaries, but you cannot compel others to honor them. Surprising, yes — many of us have tried...

Experiencing abuse and neglect as a child can leave you convinced that you must manage everyone’s emotions wherever you go. If your family is unhappy,...

The blunt truth is this: trying to force an emotionally avoidant person into full commitment is a losing strategy. Chasing someone who withdraws from intimacy...

Some of the messages that appear on my YouTube channel are fascinating — occasionally warm and thoughtful, and at other times they provoke a strong...

They walked away and left you feeling like you’ve been hit with emotional whiplash — one moment you were their closest confidant, the next you...

Avoidant men often project an image of being unbothered — composed, aloof, untouchable. Yet this apparent indifference is not strength; it’s avoidance rooted in fear:...

Горе не предназначено только для смертей. Если ваше детство было отмечено травмой, горе может прийти, когда вы наконец осознаете, что детство, в котором вы нуждались — больше...

Самые по-настоящему сильные люди, которых я встречал, были тихо добры. Они не пытались угодить всем и не позволяли собой манипулировать. Они были сосредоточены, прямолинейны и...

Многие люди, пережившие травматический опыт, оказываются окружёнными избыточным количеством вещей, и поскольку беспорядок может сдерживать вас, это вдохновляет, когда вы находите...

Вам внушали, что любовь равно предательство, что измена — обыденность, а случайные связи не только допустимы, но и безопаснее...

Они ушли без тепла. Без слез. Без запоминающегося прощания. Просто стена молчания, блокировки, отписки, исчезновения. Кажется, что вы никогда не имели значения. Ваш...

A few years back I asked Emily whether she had ever gone along with something sexual with me when she actually didn’t want to, and...

They didn’t capture you with grand vows; they held you captive with their absence. Not by what they offered, but by what they refused to...

There’s a common idea that people squander whatever they have in surplus — whether it’s food, money, time, or health. When something is plentiful, it’s...

Have you ever known you ought to do something—get to work on time, put away laundry, finish a creative piece, or even brush your teeth...

You’ve endured enough silence in your life, haven’t you? That heavy, unsettling quiet that follows their disappearance — the rooms that still seem to echo...

Okay, correct me if I’m wrong, but it seems like when you constantly go out of your way for a partner who never returns the...

Когда я впервые начала преподавать о травмах, я никогда не представляла, что одним из самых стойких, определяющих последствий насилия и пренебрежения в детстве также…

The early phase of a romantic relationship—especially after a long period of solitude or when you fear you may never be truly loved—can feel all-consuming....