Ирина Журавлева

How can someone know if an avoidant person actually feels regret about losing them when no words are spoken? Pause on that — it’s the...

What Kelly is trying to convey, as I understand it, is that she needs more affection from you that isn’t sexual. I’m sorry — did...

There’s no chance of winning if every morning you wake up and face a constant stream of food choices all day long—your willpower will be...

Okay — imagine you bring up something that matters to you in a calm, respectful way, but your partner still reacts as if you’ve attacked...

You may believe you’re prepared for a true, committed relationship, but if you keep pouring all your emotional and romantic energy into someone who is...

If you have feelings for someone but keep them hidden because you know they aren’t really available, pretending it’s “just friendship,” don’t be astonished when...

A people-pleaser is someone who suppresses their genuine reactions during interactions, abandoning their own choices about what to do, what to say, and who to...

When we discuss trauma, we often concentrate on the outward expressions — the outbursts, the acting out — but there’s another way trauma steers your...

That sickening twist in your stomach when someone you love — someone you’ve been pouring effort into — suddenly acts as though you don’t matter:...

Pay attention, because this may sound counterintuitive at first: the quickest way to stop letting an avoidant partner — the one who flees closeness, shuts...

What ultimately undoes an anxious–avoidant pair is rarely a deficit of affection. Both people would probably insist they care deeply for one another. The real...

Pleasing others will almost certainly wreck your relationships — and many of you are guilty of it. You might ask: Jimmy, how do I tell...

There is a nearly universal, powerful trigger for symptoms of childhood PTSD — and chances are you experience it. Many people do, not only those...

Imagine if you began responding to them exactly as they respond to you. Imagine if you invested in this relationship only to the same degree...

Sometimes silence speaks louder than any shout. It does not scream, chase, or beg; it simply exists. Yet everything can shift when someone who habitually...

People often remain in harmful relationships because the mistreatment is not constant. In trauma bonds especially, a pattern of unpredictable kindness and cruelty conditions the...

When a disagreement turns into your partner being critical, how should you respond? First, it helps to recognise that criticism and complaint are not the...

If you grew up with trauma, you already know how past experiences can resurface and set off thoughts, reactions and habits that undermine your performance...

Listen: I can’t fix a relationship unless both partners agree to a shared set of principles and values. If even one person refuses to live...

When an entire family turns on one of its members, it is a profoundly harmful form of abuse. Sometimes this takes the shape of scapegoating,...

Love itself doesn’t cause pain. People who haven’t learned how to love do. Sit with that for a second. If you have ever been in...

From reading hundreds of letters sent by people who follow this channel, certain patterns emerge. One particularly worrying indicator that someone is deteriorating in an...

Discover how well you know your partner with fun questions, quizzes, and tips to boost connection and nurture your relationship.

How many times have you asked for something that should have been simple and reasonable, only for it to erupt into another argument where they...