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The Reason They’re Pushing You Away Is Not Because They Need Your "Help"
The Reason They’re Pushing You Away Is Not Because They Need Your "Help"

When your attachment is anxious and insecure, and a partner tells you, “I don’t want to be with you anymore,” yet you cling more tightly,...

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11月 05, 2025
Anxious Attachment leads to Heartbreak until you do this…
Anxious Attachment leads to Heartbreak until you do this…

Anxious attachment wrecked nearly every romantic relationship I’ve been in. I was convinced that closeness meant always putting someone else’s feelings and needs before my...

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11月 05, 2025
Why does the Anxious partner have to sacrifice for the Avoidant?
Why does the Anxious partner have to sacrifice for the Avoidant?

Why is it always the anxious partner who ends up adjusting for the avoidant? What do you mean by “adjusting”? I mean it’s constantly the...

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11月 05, 2025
Avoidants Texted You After Silence? This Brutal Reply Will Destroy Them | Jordan Peterson
Avoidants Texted You After Silence? This Brutal Reply Will Destroy Them | Jordan Peterson

They vanish when you least expect it. One day they’re warm, engaging, and saying all the right things; the next day there is only quiet....

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11月 05, 2025
What To Do When Someone Makes You Feel Creeped Out
What To Do When Someone Makes You Feel Creeped Out

there’s always a risk when you take part in 12-step groups or join online meetings made up of people who are there because they have...

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11月 05, 2025
The 5 Stages of a Dismissive Avoidant’s Mind When You Go Silent
The 5 Stages of a Dismissive Avoidant’s Mind When You Go Silent

Stop immediately. Put the phone down. Stop re-reading old conversations. Stop scrolling through their profile. And stop torturing yourself with the question of what you...

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11月 05, 2025
Stop Trying to Control Everyone Else: The Freedom of Owning Your Own Boundaries
Stop Trying to Control Everyone Else: The Freedom of Owning Your Own Boundaries

People often mix things up: you can establish boundaries, but you cannot compel others to honor them. Surprising, yes — many of us have tried...

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11月 05, 2025
How to NOT Let Negative People Drag You Down
How to NOT Let Negative People Drag You Down

Experiencing abuse and neglect as a child can leave you convinced that you must manage everyone’s emotions wherever you go. If your family is unhappy,...

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11月 05, 2025
STOP CHASING. START ATTRACTING: The Hidden Secret No One Told You Avoidant Partners | Mel Robbins
STOP CHASING. START ATTRACTING: The Hidden Secret No One Told You Avoidant Partners | Mel Robbins

The blunt truth is this: trying to force an emotionally avoidant person into full commitment is a losing strategy. Chasing someone who withdraws from intimacy...

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11月 05, 2025
Why Some Traumatized People Think Focusing on Trauma Is Stupid
Why Some Traumatized People Think Focusing on Trauma Is Stupid

Some of the messages that appear on my YouTube channel are fascinating — occasionally warm and thoughtful, and at other times they provoke a strong...

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11月 05, 2025
Decoding the Avoidant Mind: The 5-Step Journey Back to You (Most Mess up at Stage 3)
Decoding the Avoidant Mind: The 5-Step Journey Back to You (Most Mess up at Stage 3)

They walked away and left you feeling like you’ve been hit with emotional whiplash — one moment you were their closest confidant, the next you...

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11月 05, 2025
7 Psychological Turn-Ons That Instantly Break Through an Avoidant’s Defenses
7 Psychological Turn-Ons That Instantly Break Through an Avoidant’s Defenses

回避型の男性は、気にならないかのように装うことがよくあります — 落ち着いていて、よそよそしく、手の届かない存在のように。しかし、この一見した無関心は強さではなく、恐れに基づいた回避です...

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11月 05, 2025
Grieving The Life You Didn’t Get? – Please Watch This…
Grieving The Life You Didn’t Get? – Please Watch This…

Grief isn’t reserved only for deaths. If your childhood was marked by trauma, grief can arrive when you finally grasp that the childhood you needed—more...

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11月 05, 2025
6 "Kind" Things Women Do That Make People Secretly Disrespect You
6 "Kind" Things Women Do That Make People Secretly Disrespect You

The most genuinely powerful people I’ve encountered were quietly kind. They weren’t trying to please everyone or easily pushed around. They were centered, direct, and...

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11月 05, 2025
How to REALLY Declutter Reminders of the Painful Past
How to REALLY Declutter Reminders of the Painful Past

Many people who have survived traumatic experiences end up surrounded by excess stuff, and because clutter can hold you back, it’s empowering when you find...

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11月 05, 2025
You Were Taught to Feel Unworthy — But You Can UNLEARN It
You Were Taught to Feel Unworthy — But You Can UNLEARN It

You were raised to believe that love equals betrayal, that being cheated on is commonplace, and that casual hookups are not only acceptable but safer...

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11月 05, 2025
Why Avoidants Act Fine After the Breakup And Why They Always Come Back | Mel Robbins Best Speech
Why Avoidants Act Fine After the Breakup And Why They Always Come Back | Mel Robbins Best Speech

They left without warmth. No tears. No memorable farewell. Just a wall of silence, blocks, unfollows, disappearance. It feels as if you never mattered. Your...

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11月 05, 2025
I asked my Wife about Sexual Consent, didn’t go great.
I asked my Wife about Sexual Consent, didn’t go great.

A few years back I asked Emily whether she had ever gone along with something sexual with me when she actually didn’t want to, and...

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11月 05, 2025
This Is How Avoidants Possess You Physically And Mentally And You Never Even Notice | Mel Robbins
This Is How Avoidants Possess You Physically And Mentally And You Never Even Notice | Mel Robbins

They didn’t capture you with grand vows; they held you captive with their absence. Not by what they offered, but by what they refused to...

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11月 05, 2025
Don’t waste your Relationship like I did.
Don’t waste your Relationship like I did.

There’s a common idea that people squander whatever they have in surplus — whether it’s food, money, time, or health. When something is plentiful, it’s...

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11月 05, 2025
Why You’re Always Stuck (It’s Not Laziness — It’s Trauma) + How to Break Free
Why You’re Always Stuck (It’s Not Laziness — It’s Trauma) + How to Break Free

Have you ever known you ought to do something—get to work on time, put away laundry, finish a creative piece, or even brush your teeth...

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11月 05, 2025
幼少期のネグレクトと、気にかけてくれないパートナーへの魅力を理解する幼少期のネグレクトは、人々に深い傷跡を残し、その後の人間関係に影響を与える可能性があります。特に、伴侶となる相手を選ぶ際に、愛情やケアを求めるよりも、むしろ気にかけてくれないパートナーに惹かれる傾向が見られることがあります。なぜ、そのようなことが起こるのでしょうか?*   **パターン認識:** 幼少期にネグレクトされた人は、その経験が「正常」な人間関係だと認識してしまうことがあります。そのため、無関心な相手との関係に安らぎを感じてしまうのです。*   **自己価値の低さ:** ネグレクトは自己価値を低下させる可能性があります。自分が愛される価値がない、気にかけてもらう価値がないと思い込んでしまうため、相手からの無関心さに抵抗できないことがあります。*   **期待しないこと:** 過去の経験から、相手に何かを期待することを諦めてしまうことがあります。「期待しても無駄だ」という考えが、無関心な相手との関係を維持する理由になることがあります。*   **支配とコントロール:** 一部の人は、無関心なパートナーをコントロールしようとすることがあります。自分のニーズを満たしてくれる相手と、相手に頼らずに済む相手の間に葛藤が生じることがあります。これらのパターンを理解することで、私たちは過去の経験から学び、より健全な人間関係を築くことができるようになります。セラピーやカウンセリングは、これらの課題に対処し、自己価値を高め、より満たされた関係を築くための有効な手段となります。**重要な注意点:** この記事は、専門家によるアドバイスの代わりになるものではありません。もしあなたがネグレクトや虐待の経験に苦しんでいる場合は、専門家の助けを求めてください。
幼少期のネグレクトと、関心を示さないパートナーへの引力

養育者が、愛情、注意、安全への欲求が食事、呼吸、水分補給と同じくらい重要である子供を見落とすのは、本当に心を痛めます。もしあなたが…

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11月 05, 2025
Why You Feel Left Out in Groups (and What to Do About It)
Why You Feel Left Out in Groups (and What to Do About It)

トラウマについて教え始めた頃、私は子どもの虐待やネグレクトの最も持続的で特徴的な結果の1つが…になることを想像もしていませんでした。

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11月 05, 2025
これらの兆候を探し、そして妥協しないでください。
これらの兆候を探し、そして妥協しないでください。

ロマンチックな関係の初期段階—特に長期間の孤独の後や、真に愛されることが決してないのではないかと恐れているとき—は、すべてを飲み込むような感覚になることがあります.....

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11月 05, 2025