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If someone repeatedly behaves in ways that hurt you—over and over—this is rarely a fleeting phase; it’s a pattern. If they withdraw when you’re upset,...

It can be incredibly confusing to weigh staying in a secure but uninspiring partnership against ending it to chase something more passionate, unpredictable, and risky—with...

If you’re someone who gives freely, you must set boundaries, because people who take won’t do it for you. It’s admirable to be naturally selfless...

You know that moment when someone you love begins to drift — the messages taper off, the calls fade, silence takes over — and your...

When a friend abruptly cuts you off and you can’t figure out why, the simplest explanation might be that the person wasn’t a suitable friend...

Most people who have been in a relationship know what it’s like to fall in love, and many of us have also experienced the pain...

When someone retreats from you, the instinctive reaction might be to chase after them, to reach out, or to try to close the sudden gap...

This one habit ends every conversation — not occasionally, not just with certain people, but every single time. The worst part is that if you...

If you train someone over time to manage life without you, don’t be shocked when they eventually walk away. Commitment and fidelity mean far more...

The quickest way to undermine a relationship is to ignore what it requires to thrive. When people say, “You shouldn’t have needs in a relationship,”...

リレーションシップにおける不誠実さを思い浮かべると、激しい口論、ドアの激閉、または明白な裏切りを想像する人が多いでしょう。しかし、もし危害が静かなものであれば…？

厳しい真実として、ロマンチックなパートナーシップの約3分の1が何らかの不倫に直面するでしょう。それが陰惨な部分です。…

何回、単純で妥当なはずの何かを頼んだときに、別の議論に発展してしまったことがあるだろうか…？

気づかないうちに繰り返してしまう日常的な行動が、あなたの人間関係、自尊心、そして本来持てるはずだった人生を静かに蝕んでいることがあります。これらは劇的な感情の爆発ではありません...

もし、幼少期のトラウマが残した傷から立ち直りたいと願うなら、あなたはまるで善と戦っているかのような勢力との対峙に直面することになるでしょう...

Let me explain why the Golden Rule can actually work against your relationship. So what is the Golden Rule? In its simplest form it says:...

Growing up with trauma affects each person differently, yet the patterns of symptoms that can surface later in life are strikingly similar for many of...

Nothing scrambles your mind or wounds you more than trying to maintain any kind of relationship with someone who behaves narcissistically — the gaslighting, the...

Believe me from hard-won experience: destroying a marriage is almost always much easier than rebuilding one. It takes far less effort to let a relationship...

There’s a pattern that comes from trauma where people move through life without ever truly committing to anything long-term — relationships, careers, communities, even the...

A lot of people misunderstand avoidance: they assume pulling away is a sign of strength, that detachment equals confidence. In reality, avoidant withdrawal is not...

A few days ago a post explored how shutting down or stonewalling during an argument can leave a partner feeling unheard, isolated, and even abandoned,...

Even rats become obsessed when rewards and care are repeatedly mixed with cruelty and isolation, so it’s not surprising that people raised with trauma often...

One night I was called into the hospital and found a man suffering a massive heart attack. We fought to save him for a long...