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So much of what we’ve been taught about repairing our lives and resolving old wounds is simply misleading. Have you noticed that? The kind of...

Why is it that when he withdraws you instinctively squeeze tighter? Why does his silence sometimes feel oddly familiar or even comforting? Here’s the uncomfortable...

No one fully grasps experiences like this unless they’ve lived through them. When you grow up neglected and abandoned, with your needs ignored, there’s a...

If you’re exhausted from chasing someone who keeps pulling away, here’s the hard, freeing truth: loving them harder won’t change them, and you can’t fix...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...

Every relationship that mixes narcissism and codependency usually shows the same few patterns. First, at least one partner feels compelled to carry the relationship on...

hey — I read a comment that genuinely enraged me: someone wrote, “I love how in your videos the parents are always to blame, no...

Hey — can you help me with how we handle conflict? What do you mean? Well, when I’ve tried to mention things before, it often...

ナルシストとの関係から抜け出す唯一の正当な道は、去ることです。居続けることは何の利益にもならないでしょう—あなたのニーズは満たされ…

聞くこと： 回避型の人々は愛そのものに恐怖を感じているのではなく、間違った人に何年も心を捧げることに恐怖を感じているのです。 あまりにも頻繁に彼らは誤ってラベル付けされています...

なぜ、子供たちが傷つけられているのを見たと訴えられた人々は、ほとんどの場合、知っていたことを認めたり、彼らを保護できなかったことについて謝罪したりしないのでしょうか？なぜ...

Some people are utterly unsure what is acceptable to say or do in front of their children when parents behave without boundaries — parading around...

Hey — let’s unpack a couple of double standards, one common among men and one among women, so no one gets singled out. Men, take...

Okay—this video aims to explain why an avoidant partner might shut down during an argument, how you can respond in those moments, and what steps...

すべての回避型は、5つの異なる段階のどこかに位置します。彼らが述べる理由を聞くことで、あなたがどの段階に対処しているかを知ることができます...

If as a child you had to take on the responsibilities of an adult, that was emotional neglect—plain and simple. You were forced into a...

It’s obvious to avoid people who have betrayed you and sucked away the love you once felt, but sometimes there are reasons to pause before...

If you’re using psychological terminology to excuse sneaking around, attempting to undermine other people’s relationships, and deceiving those who care about you — and then...

Here’s a practical tip many of us forget: you cannot truly resolve conflict with someone who is emotionally immature. Picture this — they do something...

Quick quiz: do you have to be psychic to be in tune with her? No — but you do need to be proactive about recognizing...

彼らは歩き去る—そして何もなくなって、静寂が訪れる。あなたは彼らのフィードをスクロールし、彼らは元気そうで、むしろ自由そうで、友達とのブランチで笑顔を浮かべている、…

Listen: marriage can sometimes feel even more isolating than single life, and it’s easy to be swept up in the emotions of the wedding day....

Sometimes people fling the word “privilege” like an accusation — a put-down that lets the accuser feel morally superior and even use shame to discredit...

If the grown-ups around you ignored you as a child—if they were neglectful, brushed you off, or simply absent—you might still carry the experience of...