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未来に取り残されることへの恐れが、今の自分のニーズを放棄することに繋がった。私は常に他の人々の…

The universe keeps a harsh equilibrium. Every deed invites a counterforce. Every ounce of emotional investment you give to someone can come with a cost....

Are there other people-pleasers out there who recognize this pattern — where you can’t bring up feeling alone or neglected on the good days because...

“Marriages die in the conversations that never happen” — that line, attributed to Dr. John Gutman who has examined thousands of couples, sums up a...

They vanished without a word three months ago — no farewell, no explanation, just silence. Then, in the small hours last night, at 2:08 a.m.,...

Nobody can truly love you well if you haven’t become aware of the repeating patterns you keep slipping into. Consider this: have you ever been...

I’m about to say something that will make 99 percent of women furious — ready? Sometimes it’s acceptable for a man to say, “I’m sorry...

No, no — truly, it would be an honor; please, I insist. That’s incredibly kind of you, but I must press you again: no, I...

Many men leave comments accusing me of hating men or trying to put men below women, and nothing could be further from the truth. I...

私を興味深くさせると同時に警戒させることの一つは、他人をコントロールし、操ろうとする人々が、ある特性を持った人々を本能的に見抜くように見えることです….

急な、名状しがたい変化に気付いたことはありますか？ ある瞬間、あなたと間の空気は暖かく、生気にあふれて — 本当の繋がり、手の届く可能性。あなたは…

付き合っている相手がナルシシストかどうかを判断するための簡単なチェックリストがあればいいのに、と思いを巡らせている。それは…

回避型の元恋人が、自分にとって一番大切なものはあなただったとゆっくり認識し始めたとき、それは雷のように急に訪れるわけではありません…。.

Have you ever stared at someone you adore and felt like your words were dissolving into emptiness? You reach for any sign of intimacy, any...

Our romantic partners are not our dependents, so it becomes problematic when we end up managing everything for them while they fail to contribute their...

パートナーをナルシストだとレッテル貼りしようとするあまり、多くのエネルギーを浪費していると思います。単に、特定の行動は容認できないことを認識するべきです。結局は、…

Why do avoidant partners act with contempt toward you? That question doesn’t just float through your mind — it lands hard in your chest because...

Have you ever watched an avoidant partner disappear the moment things start to deepen, only to reappear weeks or months later as if nothing happened?...

If you find yourself wondering, “Is this relationship worth salvaging?” it usually means you’re stuck in one of three painful scenarios. First, you may be...

Growing up in an environment marked by emotional neglect or cruelty trains your nervous system to respond by withdrawing. You stop crying. You stop protesting....

Some people act difficult because they carry pain; others behave that way because inflicting pain gives them a sense of power. In both cases, if...

勘違いしないでほしい。これは失恋の話ではない。これは、まずい選択に対する審判であり、すべてのコストを明細化した、綿密な請求書なのだ….

Healthy relationships always require the active participation of two people; there’s simply no shortcut. Intimacy, trust and emotional safety emerge when both partners contribute —...

断言しますが、「愛してる」と言うだけでは関係は維持できません。愛だけでは不十分で、親密さは遥かに多くのものを要求します。.