イリーナ・ジュラヴレヴァ

リレーションシップにおける不誠実さを思い浮かべると、激しい口論、ドアの激閉、または明白な裏切りを想像する人が多いでしょう。しかし、もし危害が静かなものであれば…？

厳しい真実として、ロマンチックなパートナーシップの約3分の1が何らかの不倫に直面するでしょう。それが陰惨な部分です。…

何回、単純で妥当なはずの何かを頼んだときに、別の議論に発展してしまったことがあるだろうか…？

気づかないうちに繰り返してしまう日常的な行動が、あなたの人間関係、自尊心、そして本来持てるはずだった人生を静かに蝕んでいることがあります。これらは劇的な感情の爆発ではありません...

もし、幼少期のトラウマが残した傷から立ち直りたいと願うなら、あなたはまるで善と戦っているかのような勢力との対峙に直面することになるでしょう...

The quickest way to undermine a relationship is to ignore what it requires to thrive. When people say, “You shouldn’t have needs in a relationship,”...

If you train someone over time to manage life without you, don’t be shocked when they eventually walk away. Commitment and fidelity mean far more...

Nearly everyone who reaches out here to the Crappy Childhood Fairy describes having been invisible or misunderstood by their caregivers. Whether through neglect, substance use,...

未来に取り残されることへの恐れが、今の自分のニーズを放棄することに繋がった。私は常に他の人々の…

Okay — how can you tell if someone is a narcissist or simply an avoidantly attached person, and what should you do if you’re in...

Today my aim is to transform how you handle conflict in your close relationships. We’re not talking about “punching” fights away — rather, we’re going...

You’re having an ordinary conversation and someone drops a small comment — “don’t be so sensitive,” “you’re overreacting,” or the one that lands like a...

Even rats become obsessed when rewards and care are repeatedly mixed with cruelty and isolation, so it’s not surprising that people raised with trauma often...

All right — the aim here is to help resolve the conflicts that are eroding your relationship. It may sound ambitious, but this is worth...

Growing up with trauma affects each person differently, yet the patterns of symptoms that can surface later in life are strikingly similar for many of...

Nothing scrambles your mind or wounds you more than trying to maintain any kind of relationship with someone who behaves narcissistically — the gaslighting, the...

Believe me from hard-won experience: destroying a marriage is almost always much easier than rebuilding one. It takes far less effort to let a relationship...

All right — here’s a very simple way to approach relationship advice: ask yourself one question. Do you feel stuck? Does it seem like no...

Among the warning signs I’ve learned to spot, one in particular always makes my alarm bells ring: when an adult claims they never want to...

There’s a pattern that comes from trauma where people move through life without ever truly committing to anything long-term — relationships, careers, communities, even the...

A lot of people misunderstand avoidance: they assume pulling away is a sign of strength, that detachment equals confidence. In reality, avoidant withdrawal is not...

A few days ago a post explored how shutting down or stonewalling during an argument can leave a partner feeling unheard, isolated, and even abandoned,...

About 30% of couples — whether dating or married — report experiencing some form of infidelity, and that number only reflects what’s been disclosed. After...

One night I was called into the hospital and found a man suffering a massive heart attack. We fought to save him for a long...