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So much of what we’ve been taught about repairing our lives and resolving old wounds is simply misleading. Have you noticed that? The kind of...

Healthy partnerships are built when both people give to one another freely, because they don’t live in fear of being taken advantage of. They are...

People can be incredibly thoughtless. If you’ve endured trauma—especially in childhood—rudeness doesn’t just irritate you; it destabilizes you. You might freeze, snap back, or replay...

If your partner has ever asked you to attend counseling together and your reaction was something like “I don’t need therapy, you do,” know that...

There is always that one person you cannot completely forget. No matter how much time passes or how far apart you become, their presence remains...

Childhood trauma often creates a blind spot that makes some people especially prone to pairing with partners who are emotionally avoidant. Those partners withdraw when...

Why do people who watched children being harmed almost never step forward to admit they knew or to apologize for failing to protect them? Why...

No one fully grasps experiences like this unless they’ve lived through them. When you grow up neglected and abandoned, with your needs ignored, there’s a...

If you’re exhausted from chasing someone who keeps pulling away, here’s the hard, freeing truth: loving them harder won’t change them, and you can’t fix...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...

Okay—this video aims to explain why an avoidant partner might shut down during an argument, how you can respond in those moments, and what steps...

Hey — let’s unpack a couple of double standards, one common among men and one among women, so no one gets singled out. Men, take...

Some people are utterly unsure what is acceptable to say or do in front of their children when parents behave without boundaries — parading around...

Listen: avoidant people aren’t terrified of love itself — they’re terrified of investing their heart in the wrong person for years. Too often they’re mislabeled...

Remember: the only true way out of a relationship with a narcissist is to leave. Staying brings no real gain — your needs will remain...

Hey — can you help me with how we handle conflict? What do you mean? Well, when I’ve tried to mention things before, it often...

hey — I read a comment that genuinely enraged me: someone wrote, “I love how in your videos the parents are always to blame, no...

Every relationship that mixes narcissism and codependency usually shows the same few patterns. First, at least one partner feels compelled to carry the relationship on...

If as a child you had to take on the responsibilities of an adult, that was emotional neglect—plain and simple. You were forced into a...

It’s obvious to avoid people who have betrayed you and sucked away the love you once felt, but sometimes there are reasons to pause before...

If you’re using psychological terminology to excuse sneaking around, attempting to undermine other people’s relationships, and deceiving those who care about you — and then...

Listen: marriage can sometimes feel even more isolating than single life, and it’s easy to be swept up in the emotions of the wedding day....

Sometimes people fling the word “privilege” like an accusation — a put-down that lets the accuser feel morally superior and even use shame to discredit...

If the grown-ups around you ignored you as a child—if they were neglectful, brushed you off, or simply absent—you might still carry the experience of...