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When my marriage began to crumble and we started seeing a counselor together, one comment she made cut straight to the heart of things. She...

A frequent complaint from men is that women are being taught that every emotion they have must be validated. Their point is: feelings are not...

Understanding disorganized (fearful-avoidant) attachment Disorganized attachment develops when a child’s caregiver was both a source of comfort and a source of fear — for example,...

This is not love — and I’ll state that up front without beating around the bush. The intense magnetic pull, the fixation on someone who...

Okay, here’s the situation: everyone is fixated on spotting red flags — narcissism, avoidance, gaslighting — wondering whether their partner is secretly manipulating them. That...

They walk away and then silence falls. You check their social feeds and see them seemingly fine — maybe even freer and happier. They drink...

Have you ever bent over backward for a man — agreed to things you secretly opposed, dropped everything at the slightest call, or stayed silent...

Here’s the single moment that tends to devastate someone with an avoidant attachment style — and why that same moment can feel like liberation for...

They disappear like hoarfrost under a sudden sun, leaving you staring into an unnerving quiet, wondering whether the connection ever existed. Why do avoidant partners...

Isn’t it maddening? Just when you finally start to feel lighter—smiling again, sleeping through the night, no longer obsessively checking their Instagram—your phone buzzes and...

You believe he’s untroubled. You picture him walking away without a backward glance: composed, detached, already moving on as if you never mattered. His feeds...

Many people ask which exact method I used to soothe my nervous system and heal the lingering effects of childhood PTSD. If you’ve seen my...

People often teach that relationships should be rooted in selflessness, and there is truth in that—yet a crucial question remains: when does giving turn harmful?...

Being betrayed by infidelity and dishonesty is devastating. Has this happened to you? What makes it so bewildering is that betrayal can creep into relationships...

Begin with a common misconception. When someone pulls away—stops replying to messages, goes quiet after a night of closeness, or physically leans back in a...

It’s predictable: whenever someone offers relationship advice, there’s always that comment — “That won’t help with narcissists; empathy, kindness, and love don’t work on them.”...

Limerence strikes me as almost a metaphysical phenomenon; it winds itself through the wreckage of family breakdowns. It’s an obsessive, high-intensity fixation on people you...

I used to fall into the habit of apologizing almost immediately, and while that might seem considerate at first glance, it often creates problems. Rushing...

Okay — in this video I’m going to walk through five essentials I believe every relationship needs to prosper. Two people can be together and...

Almost everything you encounter about childhood trauma emphasizes how awful it is, how broken you are, and how terrible the people who hurt you were....

Have you ever experienced someone who vanished when you needed them and then suddenly reappeared as if nothing had happened? They message you unexpectedly, like...

I really think if couples adopted a single simple rule, their arguments could improve almost immediately — hear me out: pick a cue word, something...

Here’s a straightforward question for everyone: does your partner have the right to voice a complaint? One of the toughest things for any of us—men...

Okay, let’s simplify relationships: if you or your partner, whether deliberately or unintentionally, lack the desire to build trust, intimacy, emotional safety, or healthy communication,...