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Understand this principle: childhood functions like a classroom, whether it was obvious at the time or not. During those years you absorbed lessons about love...

Much of what you’ve been taught about recovery and what will actually transform your life is misleading. Too many people remain trapped in their trauma...

If you’re sharing parenting responsibilities with someone who displays narcissistic behavior, there are some things that are likely true about how you’re feeling. First, you’re...

Okay, welcome to premarital counseling. Thanks for coming. Are you excited for the wedding? It’s just a few weeks away. Yeah, it’s thrilling. Hold on...

Being in company can feel overwhelming and activating, especially if you grew up with trauma — people can be harsh, judgmental, and make you feel...

Did they tell you they weren’t ready, yet behaved as if everything were fine? Did they make you feel as though your desire for consistency...

Severe neglect in childhood — when adults consistently fail to meet your needs — can create an emotional fragility that follows you into adulthood. Even...

Losing a parent can cut deep and shape a child’s emotional life for years — sometimes for a lifetime. But when a parent deliberately leaves...

So many people drift through life trying to fix issues of belonging, meaning, and productivity without realizing that they are, in fact, keeping themselves—and the...

Okay, I’ve come across a relationship trick you really should try. I can’t fully explain why it works, but when I start a conversation with...

You don’t have to wait until someone has hurt you ten times before you accept the truth. If warning signs appear at the start of...

People often ask me which of my videos about trauma I consider most impactful, and there’s one I want to bring to your attention now....

I’m not sure what dating looks like these days, but one thing I’m certain of: you deserve someone who actively pursues you. It frustrates me...

The reason I intentionally work to acknowledge my partner’s emotions is that her feelings matter to me, even when I don’t share them. I choose...

Ever wondered why someone who has ignored you for weeks suddenly floods your phone the moment you stop caring? Why they take days to reply...

I didn’t have this knowledge, and that ignorance destroyed my relationship — yours will keep deteriorating unless you choose to learn what it truly needs...

If your former partner was narcissistic, it’s very likely that even after the relationship ended, you still feel its effects — those relationships are destabilizing,...

Many people write in saying that boundaries never work with narcissists or that their partner simply ignores them, so this needs addressing. One crucial caveat:...

Growing up in a chaotic, dysfunctional household where emotional neglect — and sometimes abuse — were common can scar your capacity to form secure bonds....

Self-differentiation means being authentically yourself and not absorbing the emotional noise or “wifi” coming from others. The more you can remain true to yourself while...

Here’s a question: can your ego tolerate someone being genuinely blunt with you? Looking back at why one of my relationships collapsed, I now see...

Hi everyone — Mel here. I want to kick off today’s video by sharing something that happened last night. It was a Tuesday, one of...

This episode is sponsored by “corn.” Alright, someone warned me that if I say the p-word this clip might get pulled, so from here on...

Estimates suggest roughly 15% of people experienced significant trauma in childhood—depending on how you define “trauma.” Many of those people don’t even realize they were...