Irina Zhuravleva

Can we start practicing a simple rule: if you feel something, say it? Men, in particular, often struggle with this — acting as if our...

there is a powerful link between childhood abuse and neglect—especially emotional neglect—and a recurring, painful pattern in adulthood of investing all your affection into an...

When parents are so wrapped up in themselves that they barely notice or truly know their children, it’s common for those children to grow up...

Why is it that even when you pitch in around the house she still seems unappreciative? That’s an important question and there are several possible...

Everyone seems to be using the word dysregulation these days—but what does it actually refer to? And what can you do when it happens to...

What might happen if we invited people into a lab and asked them to write about a painful event they had never fully talked through...

Anyone who has been involved with an avoidant partner has likely experienced a disorienting shift in the relationship: warmth cools, conversations turn curt, and small...

Okay. If you withdraw during an argument—something you might not usually do—I’ll be brief. But if you’re like me, there are moments in the middle...

When you’re dealing with someone who has an avoidant attachment style, it isn’t their words that usually throw you off — it’s the heavy quiet....

I notice recurring patterns after reading hundreds of messages from people who follow this channel. One of the most dangerous signs that someone is losing...

A major challenge for people raised in homes marked by abuse and neglect — and this will resonate for many — is that mean, dismissive...

Okay, today we have an extraordinarily special guest. For those who haven’t met her yet, Dr. Sue Johnson is a distinguished psychologist, author, speaker and...

One of the most corrosive aftereffects of enduring abuse is how it warps your inner life. Your emotions go offline. You feel disconnected. It becomes...

Would you be prepared to pose this question to your partner: when was the last time you felt lonely in this relationship? From what I...

Have you noticed that in most relationships one person tends to be the more self-reliant partner? If you’re unsure which side that is in your...

Non si trattava di violenza fisica. Era silenzioso. Si manifestava come commenti sussurrati, il brusio improvviso quando entri in una stanza, sorrisi forzati, rendendoti conto di essere...

Ti sei mai fermato a chiederti se potresti essere un narcisista, o almeno manifestare a volte comportamenti narcisistici? Se sei cresciuto subendo abusi...

Oggi esploreremo la differenza tra bisogni sani e bisogni malsani nelle relazioni intime. Sotto la maggior parte degli argomenti si nascondono desideri e paure inappagati che...

Ok, immagina questo: molti di noi hanno già dei figli o sperano di averli un giorno. Ora chiediti — ti starà bene se,...

Oggi voglio affrontare una domanda difficile: dovresti cambiare per il tuo partner? La risposta breve è no — non cambiare chi sei...

Crescere in mezzo ad abusi e trascuratezza scola quasi sempre una persona della sua forza naturale. Inizi a dubitare del tuo valore, a perdere fede nel tuo...

Okay, questa è un po' di sfogo, ma ogni volta che cerco di dare consigli sulle relazioni — anche quando comincio dicendo che...

Uno dei modi più sicuri per distruggere lentamente una relazione è l'eccessivo compiacere gli altri. Non tutti diventano naturalmente compiacenti — spesso si sviluppa...

Il modo più potente per creare connessioni autenticamente significative con gli altri è farli sentire ascoltati. Le persone lo desiderano — e farlo...