Irina Zhuravleva

Ti sfidiamo triplice a sollevare queste domande la prossima volta che scoppia una discussione. Sei seriamente così arrabbiato? Sono infiammato, amico — c'è...

Uomini — un avvertimento: in un certo punto di una relazione sana, il vostro partner vi si avvicinerà da una posizione di vulnerabilità, chiedendo o accennando...

Why does she appear to get on my nerves even more when I have to wrap up work at home? For instance, I might be...

You follow every piece of advice you’re given—go to therapy, practice breathing, stay optimistic, exercise, repeat affirmations, be gentle with others, grieve, honor your feelings—yet...

Ti sei mai fermato a chiederti cosa porta finalmente qualcuno con tendenze evasive a smettere di scappare? Cioè, quale momento li spinge a confrontarsi con se stessi, a fare...

Okay — immagina di sollevare qualcosa che ti sta a cuore in modo calmo e rispettoso, ma il tuo partner reagisce comunque come se tu lo avessi attaccato...

Sono stato sommerso di messaggi da persone che si sentono ingannate dai loro partner — all'inizio il loro partner significativo era carismatico, affettuoso e apparentemente...

Imagine if you began responding to them exactly as they respond to you. Imagine if you invested in this relationship only to the same degree...

When we discuss trauma, we often concentrate on the outward expressions — the outbursts, the acting out — but there’s another way trauma steers your...

Pay attention, because this may sound counterintuitive at first: the quickest way to stop letting an avoidant partner — the one who flees closeness, shuts...

What ultimately undoes an anxious–avoidant pair is rarely a deficit of affection. Both people would probably insist they care deeply for one another. The real...

There is a nearly universal, powerful trigger for symptoms of childhood PTSD — and chances are you experience it. Many people do, not only those...

A people-pleaser is someone who suppresses their genuine reactions during interactions, abandoning their own choices about what to do, what to say, and who to...

From reading hundreds of letters sent by people who follow this channel, certain patterns emerge. One particularly worrying indicator that someone is deteriorating in an...

Sometimes silence speaks louder than any shout. It does not scream, chase, or beg; it simply exists. Yet everything can shift when someone who habitually...

Le persone spesso rimangono in relazioni dannose perché i maltrattamenti non sono costanti. Nei legami traumatici in particolare, un modello di gentilezza e crudeltà imprevedibile condiziona la...

That sickening twist in your stomach when someone you love — someone you’ve been pouring effort into — suddenly acts as though you don’t matter:...

If you have feelings for someone but keep them hidden because you know they aren’t really available, pretending it’s “just friendship,” don’t be astonished when...

When an entire family turns on one of its members, it is a profoundly harmful form of abuse. Sometimes this takes the shape of scapegoating,...

If you grew up with trauma, you already know how past experiences can resurface and set off thoughts, reactions and habits that undermine your performance...

Pleasing others will almost certainly wreck your relationships — and many of you are guilty of it. You might ask: Jimmy, how do I tell...

Listen: I can’t fix a relationship unless both partners agree to a shared set of principles and values. If even one person refuses to live...

Love itself doesn’t cause pain. People who haven’t learned how to love do. Sit with that for a second. If you have ever been in...

When a disagreement turns into your partner being critical, how should you respond? First, it helps to recognise that criticism and complaint are not the...