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Here’s the single moment that tends to devastate someone with an avoidant attachment style — and why that same moment can feel like liberation for...

People often teach that relationships should be rooted in selflessness, and there is truth in that—yet a crucial question remains: when does giving turn harmful?...

Okay, here’s the situation: everyone is fixated on spotting red flags — narcissism, avoidance, gaslighting — wondering whether their partner is secretly manipulating them. That...

Understanding disorganized (fearful-avoidant) attachment Disorganized attachment develops when a child’s caregiver was both a source of comfort and a source of fear — for example,...

When my marriage began to crumble and we started seeing a counselor together, one comment she made cut straight to the heart of things. She...

A pathological narcissist can make you feel exalted one moment and then discard you the next over the smallest perceived slight, and afterward they’ll turn...

This is not love — and I’ll state that up front without beating around the bush. The intense magnetic pull, the fixation on someone who...

Limerence strikes me as almost a metaphysical phenomenon; it winds itself through the wreckage of family breakdowns. It’s an obsessive, high-intensity fixation on people you...

Being betrayed by infidelity and dishonesty is devastating. Has this happened to you? What makes it so bewildering is that betrayal can creep into relationships...

Many people ask which exact method I used to soothe my nervous system and heal the lingering effects of childhood PTSD. If you’ve seen my...

They walk away and then silence falls. You check their social feeds and see them seemingly fine — maybe even freer and happier. They drink...

Isn’t it maddening? Just when you finally start to feel lighter—smiling again, sleeping through the night, no longer obsessively checking their Instagram—your phone buzzes and...

I used to fall into the habit of apologizing almost immediately, and while that might seem considerate at first glance, it often creates problems. Rushing...

Okay — in this video I’m going to walk through five essentials I believe every relationship needs to prosper. Two people can be together and...

Severe neglect in early life, when caregivers fail to attend to a child’s needs, often leaves a person emotionally porous. You might have built a...

So how do you tell your partner what you need and how you feel without them getting defensive, feeling attacked, or accusing you of not...

So I’m stuck — I can’t bring up things that hurt me when everything’s going well because I’ll ruin the good mood, and I can’t...

I really think if couples adopted a single simple rule, their arguments could improve almost immediately — hear me out: pick a cue word, something...

They aren’t testing you with words. They test you through silence, distance, and contradiction. If you’ve ever loved someone who once rushed toward you with...

Almost everything you encounter about childhood trauma emphasizes how awful it is, how broken you are, and how terrible the people who hurt you were....

So the other day both of my kids’ rooms were a mess. I told my daughter, “Please go clean your room now.” My son wasn’t...

Too often the style and tone of our arguments decide whether a relationship endures or collapses. So let me ask you plainly: how do you...

Have you ever experienced someone who vanished when you needed them and then suddenly reappeared as if nothing had happened? They message you unexpectedly, like...

A major reason people who grew up neglected as children have difficulty building steady, long-term partnerships is insecure attachment. Often they rush into closeness, get...