Irina Zhuravleva

Listen: avoidant people aren’t terrified of love itself — they’re terrified of investing their heart in the wrong person for years. Too often they’re mislabeled...

No one fully grasps experiences like this unless they’ve lived through them. When you grow up neglected and abandoned, with your needs ignored, there’s a...

If you’re exhausted from chasing someone who keeps pulling away, here’s the hard, freeing truth: loving them harder won’t change them, and you can’t fix...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...

Okay—this video aims to explain why an avoidant partner might shut down during an argument, how you can respond in those moments, and what steps...

Hey — let’s unpack a couple of double standards, one common among men and one among women, so no one gets singled out. Men, take...

Some people are utterly unsure what is acceptable to say or do in front of their children when parents behave without boundaries — parading around...

Why do people who watched children being harmed almost never step forward to admit they knew or to apologize for failing to protect them? Why...

Remember: the only true way out of a relationship with a narcissist is to leave. Staying brings no real gain — your needs will remain...

Hey — can you help me with how we handle conflict? What do you mean? Well, when I’ve tried to mention things before, it often...

hey — I read a comment that genuinely enraged me: someone wrote, “I love how in your videos the parents are always to blame, no...

Every relationship that mixes narcissism and codependency usually shows the same few patterns. First, at least one partner feels compelled to carry the relationship on...

If as a child you had to take on the responsibilities of an adult, that was emotional neglect—plain and simple. You were forced into a...

Every avoidant falls somewhere along five distinct stages. You can actually figure out which stage you’re dealing with by listening to the reasons they give...

There’s something many people won’t tell you: the usual personal development playbook—the books, workshops, courses, step-by-step strategies—often falls flat for people who carry trauma. It’s...

Being romantically fixated on someone out of reach can quietly destroy your life. It can act like a drug—initially intoxicating and comforting, convincing you that...

Why isn’t saying “I forgive you” enough to simply move forward? People often tell themselves that the past is behind them and that forgiveness should...

It’s obvious to avoid people who have betrayed you and sucked away the love you once felt, but sometimes there are reasons to pause before...

If you’re using psychological terminology to excuse sneaking around, attempting to undermine other people’s relationships, and deceiving those who care about you — and then...

Here’s a practical tip many of us forget: you cannot truly resolve conflict with someone who is emotionally immature. Picture this — they do something...

Quick quiz: do you have to be psychic to be in tune with her? No — but you do need to be proactive about recognizing...

Listen: marriage can sometimes feel even more isolating than single life, and it’s easy to be swept up in the emotions of the wedding day....

Sometimes people fling the word “privilege” like an accusation — a put-down that lets the accuser feel morally superior and even use shame to discredit...

If the grown-ups around you ignored you as a child—if they were neglectful, brushed you off, or simply absent—you might still carry the experience of...