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Okay — let’s begin 2023 by reminding ourselves of some basic truths about relationships. One: you deserve respect, kindness, appreciation, consideration and someone who genuinely...

Oh my God, babe — if we buy it today they’ll throw an extra 25% off on top of the 50% they already had, okay?...

I will never forget the day I finally heard a name for the collection of odd emotions, behaviors, and repeating mistakes that I couldn’t seem...

To spare you the long email: if you’re in a relationship with a man and you constantly feel invisible, unheard, neglected, or consistently dismissed, the...

I’m a little ashamed at how simple it turned out to be to revive my wife’s sexual interest. This wasn’t about trickery — I never...

I made a video about how tone-deaf it can feel when a man walks in after a half-hour commute and then expects another half hour...

Arguably the single biggest destroyer of relationships is emotional dysregulation: when we become flooded, anxious, or furious and fear that everything inside us is about...

A lot of people feel like they can’t truly connect with others anymore. If you keep trying but conversations stay surface-level, friendships never form, or...

It’s understandable why people hide things or bend the truth in a relationship: they often believe they’re shielding their partner from pain, trying to avoid...

If you often find yourself zoning out, snapping at others, or feeling your heart race for no obvious reason, your body may be trying to...

Earlier I spoke about why I don’t think it’s a good idea to send your husband certain clips of mine if he tends to feel...

When an avoidant suddenly experiences the real possibility of losing you, everything between you shifts. A relationship once governed by distance and control begins to...

Let’s be honest: if most of your emotional energy is fixed on how another person’s dysfunctional behavior wounds you, and you truly believe you cannot...

When caregivers fail to give their children proper love, it can seriously distort brain development and warp a person’s sense of what is real. If...

Your thoughts can deceive you when you fall headlong for a distant, solitary person who bluntly declares they do not want a committed relationship. That...

Your avoidant partner actually needs you to walk away. At first that sounds impossible — when someone you love withdraws, ignores your texts and shuts...

Should men cover the bill on a first date with a woman? If you’re a woman hoping to find a lifelong partner, my answer is...

Too often men are portrayed as the ones who always initiate sex, yet in about 30 percent of heterosexual relationships the woman actually has the...

Emotionally healthy people tend to run from avoidant partners. Yet when childhood neglect primes you, you can become especially drawn to someone who keeps pulling...

Okay. Today I want to outline the three red flags that research shows almost always undermine a relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you’ll split up,...

They share your bed. They go out with you. They might even say everything you want to hear. Yet you sense it, don’t you? That...

Have you ever stepped back from someone you care about and felt like they barely noticed? Like you’re left alone in your room with a...

Listen — it does not matter which partner we are talking about; I am here to point out something simple but draining: it wears you...

Have you ever blurted out something during an argument or in an attempt to sound strong and suddenly felt the atmosphere go cold? Your partner...