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You don’t have to wait until someone has hurt you ten times before you accept the truth. If warning signs appear at the start of...

Do you know what my underlying aim is? To stop the power struggles that damage so many relationships. Too often couples fall into imbalanced dynamics...

The reason I intentionally work to acknowledge my partner’s emotions is that her feelings matter to me, even when I don’t share them. I choose...

When your anger is audible and other people can pick it up in your tone, they often react negatively. And you know what? That reaction...

Today I want to encourage everyone to pause and ask themselves: what do I need to feel loved and valued in my relationships? It’s easy...

Imagine growing up with a parent who constantly made life revolve around them. They ignored what you needed, dismissed your attempts to speak up, and...

Call it what it is: your confusion isn’t a sign that you didn’t try hard enough — it’s the result of someone pulling away in...

Life is riddled with friction. People can be harsh. Situations get awkward. Your car malfunctions. Sometimes you must let people down, apologize, walk away, commit,...

Growing up in a chaotic, dysfunctional household where emotional neglect — and sometimes abuse — were common can scar your capacity to form secure bonds....

No one goes into a partnership hoping it will turn into a roommate arrangement, so why does it so often end up that way? It...

If you had to pick the single strongest sign that a marriage is headed for divorce, what would you guess? Many people would assume it’s...

Even if you made it through the damage caused by abusive or neglectful parents, there’s a good chance another relative — a sibling, cousin, or...

When you find yourself trapped in a job you can’t stand, people around you assume you’re simply exhausted, overworked, or in need of a break....

There comes a time when the person who always believed they held the upper hand suddenly feels the weight of silence pressing down. The avoidant...

Self-differentiation means being authentically yourself and not absorbing the emotional noise or “wifi” coming from others. The more you can remain true to yourself while...

Here’s a question: can your ego tolerate someone being genuinely blunt with you? Looking back at why one of my relationships collapsed, I now see...

I didn’t have this knowledge, and that ignorance destroyed my relationship — yours will keep deteriorating unless you choose to learn what it truly needs...

Many people write in saying that boundaries never work with narcissists or that their partner simply ignores them, so this needs addressing. One crucial caveat:...

Estimates suggest roughly 15% of people experienced significant trauma in childhood—depending on how you define “trauma.” Many of those people don’t even realize they were...

This episode is sponsored by “corn.” Alright, someone warned me that if I say the p-word this clip might get pulled, so from here on...

Hi everyone — Mel here. I want to kick off today’s video by sharing something that happened last night. It was a Tuesday, one of...

Hey—you. Yes, you. Stop scrolling. We need to have a talk. We need to address that sensation you’ve been carrying. That tight knot in your...

If your former partner was narcissistic, it’s very likely that even after the relationship ended, you still feel its effects — those relationships are destabilizing,...

Someone in the comments claimed that women don’t want men to be vulnerable — apparently I wasn’t aware of that either until they pointed it...