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After reading hundreds of messages from people who follow this channel, certain recurring patterns stand out. One particularly alarming sign that someone is unraveling in...

here’s a radical thought: what if, for once, we actually tried to love one another? what if in just one conversation we stopped performing the...

[music] Do you sometimes feel bewildered and exhausted by an overwhelming event, as if you’re separated from the rest of the world and trapped inside...

I’ve discovered a method that seems to contradict what everyone insists is impossible: getting a partner with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style to acknowledge the harm...

The reason many of us fail to establish boundaries—those personal rules about what we will and won’t accept—is fear: we worry that stating our non-negotiables...

When people think of an avoidant, they picture someone who disappears, dodges serious conversations, and hides behind the familiar “I’m busy.” But here’s the catch:...

I see you’re tucked into another steamy romance — this one’s called Secure Love. Learn anything interesting? I am picking up a lot. So, what...

So you’re asking whether that ex who pushed you away — the one who acted distant, uninterested, and unaffected — might ever come back feeling...

hey, i was kind of wondering if you had any tips for, you know, the bedroom — if you catch my drift. oh, so you...

Being in company can feel overwhelming and activating, especially if you grew up with trauma — people can be harsh, judgmental, and make you feel...

So many people drift through life trying to fix issues of belonging, meaning, and productivity without realizing that they are, in fact, keeping themselves—and the...

Have you ever noticed that the person who causes you the greatest pain is often the one you can’t seem to let go of? You...

Okay, welcome to premarital counseling. Thanks for coming. Are you excited for the wedding? It’s just a few weeks away. Yeah, it’s thrilling. Hold on...

Much of what you’ve been taught about recovery and what will actually transform your life is misleading. Too many people remain trapped in their trauma...

If you’re sharing parenting responsibilities with someone who displays narcissistic behavior, there are some things that are likely true about how you’re feeling. First, you’re...

Severe neglect in childhood — when adults consistently fail to meet your needs — can create an emotional fragility that follows you into adulthood. Even...

When your anger is audible and other people can pick it up in your tone, they often react negatively. And you know what? That reaction...

The reason I intentionally work to acknowledge my partner’s emotions is that her feelings matter to me, even when I don’t share them. I choose...

You don’t have to wait until someone has hurt you ten times before you accept the truth. If warning signs appear at the start of...

People often ask me which of my videos about trauma I consider most impactful, and there’s one I want to bring to your attention now....

Okay, I’ve come across a relationship trick you really should try. I can’t fully explain why it works, but when I start a conversation with...

Did they tell you they weren’t ready, yet behaved as if everything were fine? Did they make you feel as though your desire for consistency...

I’m not sure what dating looks like these days, but one thing I’m certain of: you deserve someone who actively pursues you. It frustrates me...

Ever wondered why someone who has ignored you for weeks suddenly floods your phone the moment you stop caring? Why they take days to reply...