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Some of the most dangerous people you’ll ever encounter are the ones who never raise their voice. They won’t slam doors or hurl curses. Instead,...

Work is one of the worst places to fall for someone you can’t—or shouldn’t—pursue. It can destroy your happiness, harm theirs, devastate your spouse, and...

Alright — let’s get into this now. Do you want to know what the most devastating form of rejection is for that avoidant-dismissive person in...

You don’t pursue someone because they’re inherently extraordinary. You pursue them because they withhold themselves. The scarcer their affection, the stronger your craving becomes. If...

The saddest part about childhood trauma, to me, is seeing so many people move through life with a battered spirit — their self-assurance, hope, and...

One major issue affecting countless people is staying in relationships that, realistically, have little chance of flourishing. Many remain stuck because nobody has clearly reminded...

Ending up in harmful partnerships is a common and painful outcome for people who experienced abuse and neglect growing up. When mistreatment was normal in...

Listen: being in a relationship with an avoidant man is rarely what it appears to be. The real risk isn’t that he doesn’t feel love...

Okay — question of the day: my girlfriend usually expresses herself from a more masculine energy. Is there anything I can do to help her...

Avoidant partners don’t step back because they don’t care — they step back because closeness can overwhelm them. Breathe. If you love someone who withdraws,...

People often misunderstand this completely. You can request to be treated with respect, but you cannot compel someone else to respect you. It’s surprising, yet...

When someone with an avoidant attachment style treats you with disrespect, it doesn’t mean you’re worthless — often it means the opposite. Their behavior frequently...

You may have seen the many disclaimers lately in my courses, videos, and their descriptions — I’ve been clearer than ever about one thing: I’m...

Let’s be honest: you’re here because something about this situation feels wrong. You finally find someone who awakens you, you lower your defenses, you begin...

Okay — let’s begin 2023 by reminding ourselves of some basic truths about relationships. One: you deserve respect, kindness, appreciation, consideration and someone who genuinely...

I made a video about how tone-deaf it can feel when a man walks in after a half-hour commute and then expects another half hour...

Arguably the single biggest destroyer of relationships is emotional dysregulation: when we become flooded, anxious, or furious and fear that everything inside us is about...

Hey babe, can we go grab that plant I spotted at the nursery? Well, hold on — I was just wondering, don’t you think we...

I’m a little ashamed at how simple it turned out to be to revive my wife’s sexual interest. This wasn’t about trickery — I never...

To spare you the long email: if you’re in a relationship with a man and you constantly feel invisible, unheard, neglected, or consistently dismissed, the...

I will never forget the day I finally heard a name for the collection of odd emotions, behaviors, and repeating mistakes that I couldn’t seem...

Oh my God, babe — if we buy it today they’ll throw an extra 25% off on top of the 50% they already had, okay?...

Here’s the reality: people with an avoidant attachment style aren’t bad at loving — they’re simply more discreet about it. Society often labels them as...

Okay. Today I want to outline the three red flags that research shows almost always undermine a relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you’ll split up,...