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Here’s the strange truth about attraction: an avoidant person is pulled toward closeness as desperately as they need air, yet they recoil from it as...

People with avoidant tendencies seldom repeat “I love you” a hundred times a day, yet that fact doesn’t mean their feelings are shallow. Quite the...

Do you ever notice something almost nobody will admit aloud? Some of the cruelest forms of harm in close relationships are quiet, nonphysical, and they...

Almost everyone I encounter claims to love and care for their partner, yet most have no clear sense of what that actually looks like or...

One thing needs to be understood right away: someone who avoids intimacy rarely returns with bouquets and apologies. They won’t show up soaked in rain...

Chances are you’ve heard that the single most widespread phobia is public speaking — roughly three out of four people feel nervous at the thought...

Few things shape the quality of life more than the condition of our closest relationships. Keep in mind that a year from now your relational...

People instinctively crave justice. Deep down we need to feel assured that the damage inflicted on us as children was wrong — that it should...

Listen: marriage can sometimes feel even lonelier than single life, and it’s easy to be swept up in the fairy-tale emotions of the wedding day....

All right — many ask for communication strategies that actually help their partner hear them without becoming defensive, shutting down, or erupting. This is a...

Many people insist that they should never have to change for their partner. To be clear: change is often necessary. As Tim Keller observes in...

People fall in love every day — it’s effortless and happens to anyone with a heartbeat — but staying in love is a different challenge....

Have you ever known you were being mistreated and reacted by trying to become exactly who you thought the other person wanted? Changing yourself completely...

We live amid a constant clamor of prescriptions about how to live: everyone seems to have an answer. Some insist it’s all about willpower and...

Avoidant partners can wound the psyche in deep and lasting ways — and often they do so without even realizing the harm they cause. It’s...

Your body tells the truth about relationships in ways your mind often won’t. While you rationalize their inconsistent behavior, try to explain away their emotional...

Have you ever loved someone who withdraws each time closeness grows? Someone who appears composed on the outside, yet you can sense the quiet tempests...

I’ve been flooded with messages from people who feel deceived by their partners — in the beginning their significant other was charismatic, affectionate and seemingly...

Tell me if this sounds like you. You grew up in a dysfunctional home. To survive, you built your whole identity around the qualities others...

I didn’t realize for a long time that I was trapped in a toxic partnership. Looking back, I couldn’t tell which warning signs deserved my...

Why does she appear to get on my nerves even more when I have to wrap up work at home? For instance, I might be...

Men — a fair warning: at some point in a healthy relationship your partner will approach you from a place of vulnerability, asking or hinting...

Anger is an instinctive emotion; it exists to prompt action when you face danger, humiliation, or injustice. It motivates you to resist, to speak up,...

We triple-dare you to bring up these questions the next time an argument erupts. Are you seriously that upset? I’m fired up, man — there’s...