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Okay — today I want to discuss how some men can be utterly useless in relationships. Ladies, you might be tempted to randomly send this...

Okay, let me be direct about something: you are not obligated to attend to your partner’s needs. You don’t have to take on their aches,...

So many people feel stuck when it comes to forming real connections, and if you find yourself repeatedly trying without anything deep developing — or...

I receive hundreds of messages from viewers each month—far more than I can respond to personally. When I choose which ones to address on YouTube,...

When an avoidant partner exhibits these four shifts, they’re effectively preparing to walk away. No exceptions. If the signs go unnoticed, the separation will catch...

Nearly everyone who grew up with trauma develops one very common pattern: a tendency to withdraw — either feeling cut off while around others or...

If you’re unfamiliar with the warning signs, the first hints of a toxic relationship can look like almost nothing: a sour mood, an odd little...

So—have you ever heard of a couple who calendars their bedroom time and instantly thought that was awkward or somehow defeating? It can seem like...

Most people assume trauma only leaves you fragile, but for a lot of us it produces rage. You can see it everywhere: being mistreated can...

I want to start by saying sorry — I realize that when I talk about Christianity or Jesus it can be really triggering for many...

Have you ever noticed it? That sudden, nearly invisible shift. One moment the air between you feels warm—connection seems tangible, promising, and real. You feel...

Hey babe — I feel like you’ve been leaving some of my things unwashed. No, I didn’t forget. They’ve been sitting dirty for a couple...

No matter what your avoidant partner says, if they respond to conflict by giving you the silent treatment, storming off, or disappearing for days or...

Right now, a lot of people are having a hard time making friends, keeping them, and letting those friendships deepen — so what’s going on?...

When I was younger, single, and hoping to meet a steady man to marry and have children with—a longing I’d held since childhood—I somehow learned...

At some point in every healthy partnership, both people will, without meaning to, wound or overlook each other — that’s unavoidable. If you deny ever...

Hello — here’s a thought: why not ask one another directly which responsibilities you feel I’ve left for you alone to handle and that make...

I can’t figure out why she’s never in the mood anymore. Oh man, my wife used to be the same — seriously, any idea what’s...

Could someone clarify how a narcissist differs from a person with avoidant attachment? I’d say the core distinction lies in motive: a narcissist often uses...

In nearly every toxic partnership there is one person exercising control and manipulation while the other carries shame and diminished self-worth. Toxic partners will convince...

Few things feel as isolating as being in a crowd — at work, at home with family, or between friends — and still sensing that...

People adore stories of dramatic turnarounds: someone drifts through a life full of pain, addiction and trauma, and then, after one single fortunate event, everything...

Living with trauma-fueled struggles can go on for so long that even the notion of freeing yourself from old patterns and problems seems terrifying. If...

Do you realize one of the biggest reasons our relationship suffered was that we never set a shared baseline? It may sound trivial now, but...