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Listen: avoidant people aren’t terrified of love itself — they’re terrified of investing their heart in the wrong person for years. Too often they’re mislabeled...

Why is it that when he withdraws you instinctively squeeze tighter? Why does his silence sometimes feel oddly familiar or even comforting? Here’s the uncomfortable...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...

Every so often I post a video that really riles up a particular crowd — in this instance, folks who follow New Age ideas. I’m...

There’s something many people won’t tell you: the usual personal development playbook—the books, workshops, courses, step-by-step strategies—often falls flat for people who carry trauma. It’s...

Every avoidant falls somewhere along five distinct stages. You can actually figure out which stage you’re dealing with by listening to the reasons they give...

Being romantically fixated on someone out of reach can quietly destroy your life. It can act like a drug—initially intoxicating and comforting, convincing you that...

You don’t have to express gratitude for things people are simply expected to do — that seems reasonable, right? The trouble with that line of...

Have you ever wondered how people with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style change as they grow older? Do they mellow and become more open-hearted with time,...

Roughly one out of every three people — and a far larger portion among younger folks — report feeling so overwhelmed by stress that most...

Some people are completely drained by narcissistic loved ones: while some try to maintain contact and others break off ties entirely, many find themselves stuck...

If you ended a relationship with someone you truly cared about and now find yourself doubting that choice, wondering whether another chance is deserved, this...

If as a child you had to take on the responsibilities of an adult, that was emotional neglect—plain and simple. You were forced into a...

Listen: marriage can sometimes feel even more isolating than single life, and it’s easy to be swept up in the emotions of the wedding day....

If the grown-ups around you ignored you as a child—if they were neglectful, brushed you off, or simply absent—you might still carry the experience of...

Sometimes people fling the word “privilege” like an accusation — a put-down that lets the accuser feel morally superior and even use shame to discredit...

There’s a psychological label for the pattern of constantly privileging someone else’s needs over your own: you prioritize the ways they feel loved, you dodge...

It’s obvious to avoid people who have betrayed you and sucked away the love you once felt, but sometimes there are reasons to pause before...

If you’re using psychological terminology to excuse sneaking around, attempting to undermine other people’s relationships, and deceiving those who care about you — and then...

Quick quiz: do you have to be psychic to be in tune with her? No — but you do need to be proactive about recognizing...

They walk away—and then there is nothing but quiet. You scroll through their feeds and they look fine, even freer, smiling at brunch with friends,...

Here’s a practical tip many of us forget: you cannot truly resolve conflict with someone who is emotionally immature. Picture this — they do something...

Why isn’t saying “I forgive you” enough to simply move forward? People often tell themselves that the past is behind them and that forgiveness should...

Discover what cuffing season means, why it happens in winter, and how people form short seasonal relationships when the weather gets colder.