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You check your phone again. You replay the last exchange in your head, searching for the moment you slipped up. You’ve tried to be more...

When your attachment is anxious and insecure, and a partner tells you, “I don’t want to be with you anymore,” yet you cling more tightly,...

This is the reason a narcissist often insists on staying friends after a breakup. At the start of your relationship it felt electric, didn’t it?...

Okay—if your relationship feels stuck in a loop of arguments that never resolve, know that everything shifted for the better in my partnership when we...

The instant you open up with vulnerability — sharing how you feel, explaining your hurt or your point of view — and the person across...

Anxious attachment wrecked nearly every romantic relationship I’ve been in. I was convinced that closeness meant always putting someone else’s feelings and needs before my...

The blunt truth is this: trying to force an emotionally avoidant person into full commitment is a losing strategy. Chasing someone who withdraws from intimacy...

Why is it always the anxious partner who ends up adjusting for the avoidant? What do you mean by “adjusting”? I mean it’s constantly the...

People often mix things up: you can establish boundaries, but you cannot compel others to honor them. Surprising, yes — many of us have tried...

They vanish when you least expect it. One day they’re warm, engaging, and saying all the right things; the next day there is only quiet....

They walked away and left you feeling like you’ve been hit with emotional whiplash — one moment you were their closest confidant, the next you...

Some of the messages that appear on my YouTube channel are fascinating — occasionally warm and thoughtful, and at other times they provoke a strong...

Stop immediately. Put the phone down. Stop re-reading old conversations. Stop scrolling through their profile. And stop torturing yourself with the question of what you...

there’s always a risk when you take part in 12-step groups or join online meetings made up of people who are there because they have...

Avoidant men often project an image of being unbothered — composed, aloof, untouchable. Yet this apparent indifference is not strength; it’s avoidance rooted in fear:...

There’s a common idea that people squander whatever they have in surplus — whether it’s food, money, time, or health. When something is plentiful, it’s...

The most genuinely powerful people I’ve encountered were quietly kind. They weren’t trying to please everyone or easily pushed around. They were centered, direct, and...

A few years back I asked Emily whether she had ever gone along with something sexual with me when she actually didn’t want to, and...

They didn’t capture you with grand vows; they held you captive with their absence. Not by what they offered, but by what they refused to...

Many people who have survived traumatic experiences end up surrounded by excess stuff, and because clutter can hold you back, it’s empowering when you find...

Grief isn’t reserved only for deaths. If your childhood was marked by trauma, grief can arrive when you finally grasp that the childhood you needed—more...

Have you ever known you ought to do something—get to work on time, put away laundry, finish a creative piece, or even brush your teeth...

Experiencing abuse and neglect as a child can leave you convinced that you must manage everyone’s emotions wherever you go. If your family is unhappy,...

You were raised to believe that love equals betrayal, that being cheated on is commonplace, and that casual hookups are not only acceptable but safer...