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Many people write in saying that boundaries never work with narcissists or that their partner simply ignores them, so this needs addressing. One crucial caveat:...

There comes a time when the person who always believed they held the upper hand suddenly feels the weight of silence pressing down. The avoidant...

When you find yourself trapped in a job you can’t stand, people around you assume you’re simply exhausted, overworked, or in need of a break....

Imagine growing up with a parent who constantly made life revolve around them. They ignored what you needed, dismissed your attempts to speak up, and...

Growing up in a chaotic, dysfunctional household where emotional neglect — and sometimes abuse — were common can scar your capacity to form secure bonds....

Today I want to encourage everyone to pause and ask themselves: what do I need to feel loved and valued in my relationships? It’s easy...

Self-differentiation means being authentically yourself and not absorbing the emotional noise or “wifi” coming from others. The more you can remain true to yourself while...

Call it what it is: your confusion isn’t a sign that you didn’t try hard enough — it’s the result of someone pulling away in...

This episode is sponsored by “corn.” Alright, someone warned me that if I say the p-word this clip might get pulled, so from here on...

Even if you made it through the damage caused by abusive or neglectful parents, there’s a good chance another relative — a sibling, cousin, or...

If your former partner was narcissistic, it’s very likely that even after the relationship ended, you still feel its effects — those relationships are destabilizing,...

Hi everyone — Mel here. I want to kick off today’s video by sharing something that happened last night. It was a Tuesday, one of...

Estimates suggest roughly 15% of people experienced significant trauma in childhood—depending on how you define “trauma.” Many of those people don’t even realize they were...

No one goes into a partnership hoping it will turn into a roommate arrangement, so why does it so often end up that way? It...

I didn’t have this knowledge, and that ignorance destroyed my relationship — yours will keep deteriorating unless you choose to learn what it truly needs...

Tell me something — have you ever felt like you’re dating a ghost? One moment the connection is electric: they’re messaging you, sharing laughter, looking...

The smallest, most ordinary moments often leave the deepest marks on a relationship — they are where trust, intimacy, friendship and connection are built and...

One of the unexpected gifts of becoming a stay-at-home dad was the quick realization that, without meaning to, I had shifted a large portion of...

Okay—if your relationship feels stuck in a loop of arguments that never resolve, know that everything shifted for the better in my partnership when we...

Everyone knows that ignoring certain warning signs can undermine even the deepest love; no matter how strong the feelings, overlooked red flags eventually create friction...

Someone in the comments claimed that women don’t want men to be vulnerable — apparently I wasn’t aware of that either until they pointed it...

Every so often a letter arrives asking for guidance that’s so grave I hesitate to even read it aloud on YouTube. Usually such requests are...

When your attachment is anxious and insecure, and a partner tells you, “I don’t want to be with you anymore,” yet you cling more tightly,...

Let me ask you something: have you ever been with someone who made you feel uniquely cherished one moment and then, seemingly without warning, drifted...