Irina Zhuravleva

Have you ever known you were being mistreated and reacted by trying to become exactly who you thought the other person wanted? Changing yourself completely...

We live amid a constant clamor of prescriptions about how to live: everyone seems to have an answer. Some insist it’s all about willpower and...

Avoidant partners can wound the psyche in deep and lasting ways — and often they do so without even realizing the harm they cause. It’s...

Have you ever loved someone who withdraws each time closeness grows? Someone who appears composed on the outside, yet you can sense the quiet tempests...

All right — many ask for communication strategies that actually help their partner hear them without becoming defensive, shutting down, or erupting. This is a...

Many people insist that they should never have to change for their partner. To be clear: change is often necessary. As Tim Keller observes in...

You may believe you’re prepared for a true, committed relationship, but if you keep pouring all your emotional and romantic energy into someone who is...

When someone with an avoidant attachment realizes you’ve stopped caring, everything shifts — their sense of control falters, their world becomes unsteady, and today I’ll...

When you enter a period of silence with someone who has pulled away, you confront one of the most misunderstood realities in modern relationships. Many...

Tell me if this sounds like you. You grew up in a dysfunctional home. To survive, you built your whole identity around the qualities others...

hey, are you the wife translator? yeah, so what are we dealing with here? hey, thanks for coming. honestly, I didn’t think we’d need a...

Have you ever spoken up in a group and felt like no one registered your words, only to hear someone else repeat the exact same...

There’s no chance of winning if every morning you wake up and face a constant stream of food choices all day long—your willpower will be...

Okay — I hope you’ll agree that I’m effective at calling men out on this channel and encouraging them to learn about intimacy, validation, and...

How can someone know if an avoidant person actually feels regret about losing them when no words are spoken? Pause on that — it’s the...

What Kelly is trying to convey, as I understand it, is that she needs more affection from you that isn’t sexual. I’m sorry — did...

I’ve been flooded with messages from people who feel deceived by their partners — in the beginning their significant other was charismatic, affectionate and seemingly...

Okay — imagine you bring up something that matters to you in a calm, respectful way, but your partner still reacts as if you’ve attacked...

We triple-dare you to bring up these questions the next time an argument erupts. Are you seriously that upset? I’m fired up, man — there’s...

If you take a look at the people you keep inviting into your life — friends, partners, coworkers, landlords — and notice an unusually large...

Men — a fair warning: at some point in a healthy relationship your partner will approach you from a place of vulnerability, asking or hinting...

You follow every piece of advice you’re given—go to therapy, practice breathing, stay optimistic, exercise, repeat affirmations, be gentle with others, grieve, honor your feelings—yet...

Why does she appear to get on my nerves even more when I have to wrap up work at home? For instance, I might be...

I didn’t realize for a long time that I was trapped in a toxic partnership. Looking back, I couldn’t tell which warning signs deserved my...