Irina Zhuravleva

Start today: set two fixed 10‑minute check-ins each day – one within the first hour after waking and one 30–60 minutes before sleep. During each...

Set three measurable standards and enforce them: common weekday routine within 30 minutes of travel time, aligned long-term goals, and evidence of emotional availability from...

Concrete recommendation: Reserve 30–60 minutes daily for structured self-care–5 minutes paced breathing, 15 minutes journaling, 10 minutes movement–and use a 6-week micro-plan: assess whether your...

Name one current feeling at the first sign of conflict: say “I feel ___” within 20 seconds and limit your turn to 15 seconds; this...

Recommendation: Adopt a four-point protocol that produces measurable momentum: 1) cap active commitments at three priorities per week; 2) schedule two 20-minute intentional rests per...

Record each incident in a compact log: date, time, brief description, felt, response, and immediate action. Keep logs for 90 days and export weekly to...

Actionable rule: agree on a nightly curfew (90 minutes) and set phones to Do Not Disturb; partners who keep consistent device-free hours report ~30% fewer...

Start a 10-minute bilateral check-in twice weekly. Each person speaks without interruption 3 minutes, then 2 minutes to request assistance or set one immediate task;...

Recommendation: Provide at least three brief hugs each day and one uninterrupted 10–15 minute period of close contact; this routine helps regulate the hormone oxytocin...

After a breakup, enact the no-contact window and remove physical reminders within 48 hours; missing items and photos prolong reactivity. If bank accounts were shared...

Choose measurable criteria for a partner: punctuality, follow-through on promises, emotional availability. Track these across 8–12 meetings or about 3 months; if at least 70%...

Use a 20-second buffer: breathe, count, and then speak; that pause makes your voice sound calmer and reduces reactive defensive moves. Ask John or any...

Schedule three 45-minute, device-free evenings per week to engage in deliberate touch, extended eye contact and candid conversation with your partner. Do this for eight...

Begin a nightly check-in: each person states one need and one concrete action they will make tomorrow. This habit takes under five minutes, keeps tension...

Set a fixed place and time, switch phones to airplane mode to eliminate distractions, and agree to three prompts: name one specific behavior you’ve noticed...

Schedule a weekly 90-minute novelty session: turn off devices, spend uninterrupted time with your partner trying one unfamiliar activity (cook a new dish, map a...

Use this script: “I realize I feel attracted to you; would you consider exploring a romantic connection?” Keep tone neutral, speak in person if possible,...

These focused meetings should use an engaging prompt list: 1) current stressors (60 seconds each), 2) logistics and task allocation (10 minutes), 3) concrete next-week...

Start the hold now: gather three months of bank statements, pay stubs and credit reports; record items like tax returns and recent statements, calculate monthly...

Direct recommendation: Test with a low-risk, specific action: smile, hold eye contact for two seconds, then break it; if the other person mirrors your gesture,...

Immediate recommendation: If outbound effort exceeds inbound responses by more than 70% across eight weeks, implement a strict two-week communication pause, limit contact to one...

Concrete recommendation: pursue a new relationship only after you have sustained: (1) 60 consecutive days of zero contact or controlled, documented contact that does not...

Declare a pause: say, “I need five minutes”, set a timer, and step away. This will interrupt escalation immediately; taking 300 seconds of focused breathing...

Track measurable metrics for four weeks: count meaningful interactions per week (target: 3+), note when touch or eye contact is missing, and log conversations under...