Irina Zhuravleva

You tell yourself you’re keeping safe. You believe that withdrawing is a sign of toughness. But imagine if the habit you adopted to survive has...

People often throw around the phrase “trauma bond,” but what does it actually signify? Many assume it simply means two wounded people connecting because they...

This will be a difficult truth for some to accept, but the reason I am who I am today is because Emily began to enforce...

How does it feel when you try to be part of a group? For many of us who grew up this way, adulthood often brings...

Men, sometimes when she goes quiet it’s not meant to punish you, and sometimes her pulling away isn’t about getting even — it can be...

An avoidant attachment shows up in more than just behavior — it’s embedded in the way someone speaks, the cadence of their voice, and their...

All right — how much blame should the betrayed partner carry for an affair that occurred within a marriage? That’s an important question. Ultimately, remember...

Have you ever stopped pursuing someone and noticed the energy in the room shift? One moment you’re sending messages, explaining yourself, doing everything to keep...

Listen: if you find yourself tempted to cheat on your spouse, you owe it to everyone involved to speak up — even if it feels...

One consequence of past trauma is that it can shape behaviors—often around sex and money—that society judges harshly. Those actions can create stigma that follows...

Your sense of who you are — and therefore what you can imagine for your future — is woven from the narratives you repeat to...

One of the toughest realities to swallow when you’re in love with someone who consistently withdraws is this: the more you pursue them, the more...

The world will try to teach my daughter that her worth lies in her appearance, that a “good” girl stays quiet, obedient, and always puts...

Your body is far more honest about what’s happening in a relationship than your mind. While you busy yourself inventing explanations for their mood swings,...

Every relationship that mixes narcissism and codependency usually shows the same few patterns. First, at least one partner feels compelled to carry the relationship on...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...

If you’re exhausted from chasing someone who keeps pulling away, here’s the hard, freeing truth: loving them harder won’t change them, and you can’t fix...

Why is it that when he withdraws you instinctively squeeze tighter? Why does his silence sometimes feel oddly familiar or even comforting? Here’s the uncomfortable...

hey — I read a comment that genuinely enraged me: someone wrote, “I love how in your videos the parents are always to blame, no...

Listen: avoidant people aren’t terrified of love itself — they’re terrified of investing their heart in the wrong person for years. Too often they’re mislabeled...

Remember: the only true way out of a relationship with a narcissist is to leave. Staying brings no real gain — your needs will remain...

Some people are utterly unsure what is acceptable to say or do in front of their children when parents behave without boundaries — parading around...

Okay—this video aims to explain why an avoidant partner might shut down during an argument, how you can respond in those moments, and what steps...

Hey — let’s unpack a couple of double standards, one common among men and one among women, so no one gets singled out. Men, take...