Irina Zhuravleva

Grief isn’t reserved only for deaths. If your childhood was marked by trauma, grief can arrive when you finally grasp that the childhood you needed—more...

The most genuinely powerful people I’ve encountered were quietly kind. They weren’t trying to please everyone or easily pushed around. They were centered, direct, and...

Many people who have survived traumatic experiences end up surrounded by excess stuff, and because clutter can hold you back, it’s empowering when you find...

You were raised to believe that love equals betrayal, that being cheated on is commonplace, and that casual hookups are not only acceptable but safer...

They left without warmth. No tears. No memorable farewell. Just a wall of silence, blocks, unfollows, disappearance. It feels as if you never mattered. Your...

A few years back I asked Emily whether she had ever gone along with something sexual with me when she actually didn’t want to, and...

They didn’t capture you with grand vows; they held you captive with their absence. Not by what they offered, but by what they refused to...

There’s a common idea that people squander whatever they have in surplus — whether it’s food, money, time, or health. When something is plentiful, it’s...

Have you ever known you ought to do something—get to work on time, put away laundry, finish a creative piece, or even brush your teeth...

Have you ever found yourself among coworkers, at a gathering, or in a casual chat and felt strangely detached? As if you were going through...

Successful partnerships are not the product of chance; they are built deliberately. They don’t exist simply because you happened upon the right person — even...

Have you ever noticed that sudden, unsettling change — the moment lively exchanges evaporate and conversation becomes a hollow echo? When messages go unanswered and...

Alright — is this an appropriate place for me to vent? Can I safely get something off my chest? Someone left a nice comment about...

Listen — think for a moment: did someone from your past ever make you feel like you weren’t enough before you even entered this relationship?...

Here’s why a regular weekly check-in can be the thing that rescues your relationship: so often we shy away from the hard conversations. Especially men...

To be honest, I’m embarrassed when I look back at the times people treated me badly and, instead of removing myself from the situation, I...

Let’s be honest for a moment: being rejected hurts. It bites. Whether it’s a job you wanted, a friendship, or a relationship you invested in,...

May I offer a piece of advice? Don’t allow tenderness to fade from your partnership; don’t let romance fall by the wayside. You often don’t...

If adults you relied on betrayed you as a child, your sense of self-worth and personal boundaries can be so damaged that you become blind...

It’s heartbreaking when caregivers overlook a child whose need for affection, attention and safety is as vital as eating, breathing and drinking. If you grew...

You’ve endured enough silence in your life, haven’t you? That heavy, unsettling quiet that follows their disappearance — the rooms that still seem to echo...

Okay, correct me if I’m wrong, but it seems like when you constantly go out of your way for a partner who never returns the...

When I first began teaching about trauma, I never imagined that one of the most persistent, defining consequences of childhood abuse and neglect would also...

The early phase of a romantic relationship—especially after a long period of solitude or when you fear you may never be truly loved—can feel all-consuming....