Irina Zhuravleva

Men, sometimes when she goes quiet it’s not meant to punish you, and sometimes her pulling away isn’t about getting even — it can be...

One of the toughest realities to swallow when you’re in love with someone who consistently withdraws is this: the more you pursue them, the more...

Please listen closely—this matters. Your ex cannot take your place, and I’ll explain exactly why. If you’re reading this, you’re probably sorting through the fallout...

There’s a clear theme that keeps appearing in people who tell me they don’t really know themselves — they’re unsure of their tastes, their hopes,...

Your sense of who you are — and therefore what you can imagine for your future — is woven from the narratives you repeat to...

Have you ever stopped pursuing someone and noticed the energy in the room shift? One moment you’re sending messages, explaining yourself, doing everything to keep...

An avoidant attachment shows up in more than just behavior — it’s embedded in the way someone speaks, the cadence of their voice, and their...

Okay, so today’s focus is on the things men often do that damage a marriage — and yes, you might be tempted to forward this...

Listen: if you find yourself tempted to cheat on your spouse, you owe it to everyone involved to speak up — even if it feels...

There’s a huge, almost universal thing that sparks childhood-PTSD symptoms — and chances are you’ve got it too. It’s so common that most people never...

All right — how much blame should the betrayed partner carry for an affair that occurred within a marriage? That’s an important question. Ultimately, remember...

The world will try to teach my daughter that her worth lies in her appearance, that a “good” girl stays quiet, obedient, and always puts...

One consequence of past trauma is that it can shape behaviors—often around sex and money—that society judges harshly. Those actions can create stigma that follows...

You tell yourself you’re keeping safe. You believe that withdrawing is a sign of toughness. But imagine if the habit you adopted to survive has...

Some people are utterly unsure what is acceptable to say or do in front of their children when parents behave without boundaries — parading around...

Why is it that when he withdraws you instinctively squeeze tighter? Why does his silence sometimes feel oddly familiar or even comforting? Here’s the uncomfortable...

Childhood trauma often creates a blind spot that makes some people especially prone to pairing with partners who are emotionally avoidant. Those partners withdraw when...

There is always that one person you cannot completely forget. No matter how much time passes or how far apart you become, their presence remains...

If your partner has ever asked you to attend counseling together and your reaction was something like “I don’t need therapy, you do,” know that...

If you’re exhausted from chasing someone who keeps pulling away, here’s the hard, freeing truth: loving them harder won’t change them, and you can’t fix...

No one fully grasps experiences like this unless they’ve lived through them. When you grow up neglected and abandoned, with your needs ignored, there’s a...

So much of what we’ve been taught about repairing our lives and resolving old wounds is simply misleading. Have you noticed that? The kind of...

Healthy partnerships are built when both people give to one another freely, because they don’t live in fear of being taken advantage of. They are...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...