Irina Zhuravleva

You don’t pursue someone because they’re inherently extraordinary. You pursue them because they withhold themselves. The scarcer their affection, the stronger your craving becomes. If...

Imagina que te dicen que a veces la opción más amorosa para una pareja es dejar de tener relaciones sexuales por un tiempo... suena contradictorio, pero...

Muy bien — entremos en esto ahora. ¿Quieres saber cuál es la forma más devastadora de rechazo para esa persona evitativa-desestimativa en...

La realidad incómoda es que los “buenitos” a menudo no despiertan atracción en las mujeres. Sé cómo suena, así que déjame explicarme un momento...

El trabajo es uno de los peores lugares para enamorarse de alguien a quien no puedes o no deberías perseguir. Puede destruir tu felicidad, dañar la de ellos, devastar a tu cónyuge y...

Algunas de las personas más peligrosas que conocerás son aquellas que nunca alzan la voz. No golpearán puertas ni lanzarán maldiciones. En cambio...

Ending up in harmful partnerships is a common and painful outcome for people who experienced abuse and neglect growing up. When mistreatment was normal in...

You may have seen the many disclaimers lately in my courses, videos, and their descriptions — I’ve been clearer than ever about one thing: I’m...

People often misunderstand this completely. You can request to be treated with respect, but you cannot compel someone else to respect you. It’s surprising, yet...

When someone with an avoidant attachment style treats you with disrespect, it doesn’t mean you’re worthless — often it means the opposite. Their behavior frequently...

Avoidant partners don’t step back because they don’t care — they step back because closeness can overwhelm them. Breathe. If you love someone who withdraws,...

Okay — question of the day: my girlfriend usually expresses herself from a more masculine energy. Is there anything I can do to help her...

Here’s the reality: people with an avoidant attachment style aren’t bad at loving — they’re simply more discreet about it. Society often labels them as...

Listen: being in a relationship with an avoidant man is rarely what it appears to be. The real risk isn’t that he doesn’t feel love...

Let’s be honest: you’re here because something about this situation feels wrong. You finally find someone who awakens you, you lower your defenses, you begin...

Oh my God, babe — if we buy it today they’ll throw an extra 25% off on top of the 50% they already had, okay?...

Okay — let’s begin 2023 by reminding ourselves of some basic truths about relationships. One: you deserve respect, kindness, appreciation, consideration and someone who genuinely...

I will never forget the day I finally heard a name for the collection of odd emotions, behaviors, and repeating mistakes that I couldn’t seem...

To spare you the long email: if you’re in a relationship with a man and you constantly feel invisible, unheard, neglected, or consistently dismissed, the...

I made a video about how tone-deaf it can feel when a man walks in after a half-hour commute and then expects another half hour...

I’m a little ashamed at how simple it turned out to be to revive my wife’s sexual interest. This wasn’t about trickery — I never...

Hey babe, can we go grab that plant I spotted at the nursery? Well, hold on — I was just wondering, don’t you think we...

Arguably the single biggest destroyer of relationships is emotional dysregulation: when we become flooded, anxious, or furious and fear that everything inside us is about...

Emotionally healthy people tend to run from avoidant partners. Yet when childhood neglect primes you, you can become especially drawn to someone who keeps pulling...