Irina Zhuravleva

We triple-dare you to bring up these questions the next time an argument erupts. Are you seriously that upset? I’m fired up, man — there’s...

Men — a fair warning: at some point in a healthy relationship your partner will approach you from a place of vulnerability, asking or hinting...

Why does she appear to get on my nerves even more when I have to wrap up work at home? For instance, I might be...

You follow every piece of advice you’re given—go to therapy, practice breathing, stay optimistic, exercise, repeat affirmations, be gentle with others, grieve, honor your feelings—yet...

Have you ever paused to ask what finally makes someone with avoidant tendencies stop running? Like, what moment pushes them to confront themselves, do the...

Okay — imagine you bring up something that matters to you in a calm, respectful way, but your partner still reacts as if you’ve attacked...

I’ve been flooded with messages from people who feel deceived by their partners — in the beginning their significant other was charismatic, affectionate and seemingly...

Imagina si empezaras a responderles exactamente como ellos responden a ti. Imagina si invirtieras en esta relación solo en la misma medida...

When we discuss trauma, we often concentrate on the outward expressions — the outbursts, the acting out — but there’s another way trauma steers your...

Pay attention, because this may sound counterintuitive at first: the quickest way to stop letting an avoidant partner — the one who flees closeness, shuts...

What ultimately undoes an anxious–avoidant pair is rarely a deficit of affection. Both people would probably insist they care deeply for one another. The real...

Existe un detonante casi universal y poderoso para los síntomas del TEPT infantil, y es probable que usted lo experimente. Mucha gente lo hace, no solo aquellos...

A people-pleaser is someone who suppresses their genuine reactions during interactions, abandoning their own choices about what to do, what to say, and who to...

Al leer cientos de cartas enviadas por personas que siguen este canal, surgen ciertos patrones. Un indicador particularmente preocupante de que alguien se está deteriorando en un...

A veces el silencio habla más alto que cualquier grito. No grita, persigue ni suplica; simplemente existe. Sin embargo, todo puede cambiar cuando alguien que habitualmente...

A menudo, las personas permanecen en relaciones dañinas porque el maltrato no es constante. En los lazos traumáticos, especialmente, un patrón impredecible de amabilidad y crueldad condiciona...

Ese vuelco enfermizo en tu estómago cuando alguien a quien amas —alguien en quien has estado invirtiendo esfuerzo— de repente actúa como si no fueras importante:...

Si tienes sentimientos por alguien pero los mantienes ocultos porque sabes que no están realmente disponibles, fingiendo que es "solo amistad", no te sorprendas cuando...

When an entire family turns on one of its members, it is a profoundly harmful form of abuse. Sometimes this takes the shape of scapegoating,...

If you grew up with trauma, you already know how past experiences can resurface and set off thoughts, reactions and habits that undermine your performance...

Pleasing others will almost certainly wreck your relationships — and many of you are guilty of it. You might ask: Jimmy, how do I tell...

Listen: I can’t fix a relationship unless both partners agree to a shared set of principles and values. If even one person refuses to live...

Love itself doesn’t cause pain. People who haven’t learned how to love do. Sit with that for a second. If you have ever been in...

Cuando un desacuerdo se convierte en que tu pareja sea crítica, ¿cómo deberías responder? Primero, ayuda reconocer que la crítica y la queja no son la...