Irina Zhuravleva

Make explicit agreements before any casual sexual encounter: name boundaries, confirm consent, and agree on STI testing and aftercare so you reduce risk and protect...

Take one specific step now: name the fear out loud, write a short agreement with your partner, and schedule a 15-minute weekly check-in. This immediate...

Schedule a structured 20‑minute weekly check‑in: spend the first 5 minutes on quick wins, 10 minutes on one problem that needs resolution, and the last...

Block their accounts for 30 days and put a firm timer on “rumination” – limit thinking about them to a single 10-minute slot each day...

Act now: Hoffman suggests reserving a single 10-minute “fantasy slot” per day and using three quick reality checks when a delusional idea feels compelling; this...

Most single mothers manage paid work, school runs and household errands in tightly scheduled households, so respect the calendar: propose two specific time slots, confirm...

Use a 60‑second compassion pause three times daily: stop what you’re doing, inhale for three counts, notice one bodily sensation, name the feeling, and offer...

If you feel upset, take a five-minute breathing break: inhale for 4 seconds, hold 4, exhale for 8, set a timer and tell your partner...

Set one clear boundary today: tell a frequent contact you will respond to messages only between 9:00 and 18:00 for the next 14 days and...

Use a clinical checklist: record date, task, measurable outcome and one counter-evidence note so theyre visible when doubt hits. Spend five focused minutes; clinicians and...

Stop checking your partner’s phone without permission; ask direct questions and set clear boundaries to repair or preserve trust in your relationships. If you used...

Call out one clear double standard within 48 hours: name the specific behavior, explain the impact, and propose a concrete swap so both partners leave...

Schedule one 30-minute, low-pressure meeting per week – coffee, a walk, or bowling – with someone from your social groups or a casual app match;...

Set a 90-day plan: commit to two focused evenings per week for finding potential partners–one for curated digital browsing on selected sites, one for an...

Reserve one slot mid-morning and one mid-afternoon on your calendar, mark them busy, and treat each as non-negotiable. Use the first three minutes of each...

Document interactions and set a firm boundary immediately: when you notice manipulative behavior, write dates, quotes and context, tell a trustworthy friend or counselor, and...

Say “I love you” once you can honestly answer yes to five core questions – typically after about three months of consistent, reciprocal dating; if...

Use a 60-second breathing reset, step aside for five minutes, and name three concrete outcomes before you reply; this routine reduces escalation across temperaments and...

Log five interpersonal moments per day for two weeks: record the context, time, who else was involved, your immediate reaction and a 1–5 reactivity score....

Respond immediately: state whether you are agreeing to non-monogamy, pause intimacy, and demand clear boundaries before any further contact. Manage your reply with a 48-hour...

Set a weekly “priority and energy” review: list three care-focused tasks, one boundary to enforce, and one measurable goal (deadline + metric). Track hours supporting...

Do one imperfect action right now: set a 10-minute timer, write a raw draft, and email it to one supportive colleague – that single step...

Practice holding eye contact for 4–6 seconds during conversations today. Set a timer for short drills, breathe steadily, and blink normally to avoid staring; ensure...

Choose relationships and purposeful tasks over quick thrill-seeking: this week commit to one concrete change – spend 90 focused minutes with a close person or...