Irina Zhuravleva

Have you ever stopped pursuing someone and noticed the energy in the room shift? One moment you’re sending messages, explaining yourself, doing everything to keep...

Listen: if you find yourself tempted to cheat on your spouse, you owe it to everyone involved to speak up — even if it feels...

One consequence of past trauma is that it can shape behaviors—often around sex and money—that society judges harshly. Those actions can create stigma that follows...

Your sense of who you are — and therefore what you can imagine for your future — is woven from the narratives you repeat to...

One of the toughest realities to swallow when you’re in love with someone who consistently withdraws is this: the more you pursue them, the more...

People often throw around the phrase “trauma bond,” but what does it actually signify? Many assume it simply means two wounded people connecting because they...

The world will try to teach my daughter that her worth lies in her appearance, that a “good” girl stays quiet, obedient, and always puts...

All right — how much blame should the betrayed partner carry for an affair that occurred within a marriage? That’s an important question. Ultimately, remember...

Children are remarkably skilled at stitching together a story that allows a parent to be both loving and hurtful at the same time — to...

Every relationship that mixes narcissism and codependency usually shows the same few patterns. First, at least one partner feels compelled to carry the relationship on...

No one fully grasps experiences like this unless they’ve lived through them. When you grow up neglected and abandoned, with your needs ignored, there’s a...

So much of what we’ve been taught about repairing our lives and resolving old wounds is simply misleading. Have you noticed that? The kind of...

If your partner has ever asked you to attend counseling together and your reaction was something like “I don’t need therapy, you do,” know that...

People can be incredibly thoughtless. If you’ve endured trauma—especially in childhood—rudeness doesn’t just irritate you; it destabilizes you. You might freeze, snap back, or replay...

Healthy partnerships are built when both people give to one another freely, because they don’t live in fear of being taken advantage of. They are...

If you’re exhausted from chasing someone who keeps pulling away, here’s the hard, freeing truth: loving them harder won’t change them, and you can’t fix...

Why is it that when he withdraws you instinctively squeeze tighter? Why does his silence sometimes feel oddly familiar or even comforting? Here’s the uncomfortable...

hey — I read a comment that genuinely enraged me: someone wrote, “I love how in your videos the parents are always to blame, no...

Listen: avoidant people aren’t terrified of love itself — they’re terrified of investing their heart in the wrong person for years. Too often they’re mislabeled...

Some people are utterly unsure what is acceptable to say or do in front of their children when parents behave without boundaries — parading around...

Okay—this video aims to explain why an avoidant partner might shut down during an argument, how you can respond in those moments, and what steps...

Hey — let’s unpack a couple of double standards, one common among men and one among women, so no one gets singled out. Men, take...

Why do people who watched children being harmed almost never step forward to admit they knew or to apologize for failing to protect them? Why...

Hey — can you help me with how we handle conflict? What do you mean? Well, when I’ve tried to mention things before, it often...