Irina Zhuravleva

I made a video about how tone-deaf it can feel when a man walks in after a half-hour commute and then expects another half hour...

Okay — let’s begin 2023 by reminding ourselves of some basic truths about relationships. One: you deserve respect, kindness, appreciation, consideration and someone who genuinely...

When someone with an avoidant attachment style treats you with disrespect, it doesn’t mean you’re worthless — often it means the opposite. Their behavior frequently...

Hey babe, can we go grab that plant I spotted at the nursery? Well, hold on — I was just wondering, don’t you think we...

You may have seen the many disclaimers lately in my courses, videos, and their descriptions — I’ve been clearer than ever about one thing: I’m...

Oh my God, babe — if we buy it today they’ll throw an extra 25% off on top of the 50% they already had, okay?...

Arguably the single biggest destroyer of relationships is emotional dysregulation: when we become flooded, anxious, or furious and fear that everything inside us is about...

Avoidant partners don’t step back because they don’t care — they step back because closeness can overwhelm them. Breathe. If you love someone who withdraws,...

People often misunderstand this completely. You can request to be treated with respect, but you cannot compel someone else to respect you. It’s surprising, yet...

Listen: being in a relationship with an avoidant man is rarely what it appears to be. The real risk isn’t that he doesn’t feel love...

Let’s be honest: you’re here because something about this situation feels wrong. You finally find someone who awakens you, you lower your defenses, you begin...

Okay — question of the day: my girlfriend usually expresses herself from a more masculine energy. Is there anything I can do to help her...

I’m a little ashamed at how simple it turned out to be to revive my wife’s sexual interest. This wasn’t about trickery — I never...

Too often men are portrayed as the ones who always initiate sex, yet in about 30 percent of heterosexual relationships the woman actually has the...

It’s understandable why people hide things or bend the truth in a relationship: they often believe they’re shielding their partner from pain, trying to avoid...

Emotionally healthy people tend to run from avoidant partners. Yet when childhood neglect primes you, you can become especially drawn to someone who keeps pulling...

Okay. Today I want to outline the three red flags that research shows almost always undermine a relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you’ll split up,...

A lot of people feel like they can’t truly connect with others anymore. If you keep trying but conversations stay surface-level, friendships never form, or...

Let’s be honest: if most of your emotional energy is fixed on how another person’s dysfunctional behavior wounds you, and you truly believe you cannot...

When caregivers fail to give their children proper love, it can seriously distort brain development and warp a person’s sense of what is real. If...

If you often find yourself zoning out, snapping at others, or feeling your heart race for no obvious reason, your body may be trying to...

Should men cover the bill on a first date with a woman? If you’re a woman hoping to find a lifelong partner, my answer is...

When an avoidant suddenly experiences the real possibility of losing you, everything between you shifts. A relationship once governed by distance and control begins to...

Your avoidant partner actually needs you to walk away. At first that sounds impossible — when someone you love withdraws, ignores your texts and shuts...