Irina Zhuravleva

Week 1 – data collection: Give yourself room to record occurrences: note time, trigger, emotion, and partner response for every interaction that feels sensitive. Aim...

Immediate action: Stop swiping for six weeks and run a controlled experiment: arrange three real-life meetups per month (one small group at your house, one...

Set a 10-minute micro-start right now: grab a blank index card, write the single next physical step, open the exact document for that task, set...

Do this: after the meeting, send a single short message the next evening that suggests a specific, low-effort plan (coffee or a walk) and nothing...

Concrete benchmark: count concrete moves – buying a large appliance together, adding your name to insurance, or arranging multiple family invites – as a significant...

First, realize concrete reasons for staying or leaving: income, custody, housing, health. If episodes of violence occur, plan a literal safety route, document dates exactly,...

Schedule two activities each month: one outdoor route (hiking) and one at-home intellectual quizzes evening. Track three metrics after every session – duration, emotions reported,...

Put expectations on the table and allow a clear end-date; agree on a decision in week one so either person may step back soon if...

Start with a measurable rule: commit to 15 minutes each night where both partners speak without interruption; use a simple list to track days, then...

Immediate action: state a clear, low-pressure declaration of attraction and set a one-month observation window. If they wouldnt match that openness or theyre evasive, reduce...

Apply a clear rule: after an individual completes three consecutive on-time, quality-compliant outputs within 30–45 days, initiate a 30-day trial that expands scope by 30–50%....

First: pick one specific behavior from a significant other and run a 30-day experiment with three measures – frequency per week, trigger context, and one...

Implement a strict timer rule. When voices rise, stop the exchange at 20 minutes; take a physical break, move to separate rooms, hydrate, breathe, then...

Reserve one evening per week (7:00–10:00 PM) as an uninterrupted appointment: silence notifications, move work tasks, and follow this agenda – 15 minutes rapid check-in...

Immediate recommendation: Secure identification, six to twelve months of bank and credit statements, copies of contracts, and a separate bank account within 7 days; then...

Implement weekly 20-minute check-ins focused on boundaries, spending, and minor arguments; each partner writes one action item, logs doing status, and commits to being accountable...

Recommendation: measure immediate responses: record three live deliveries of the same line, separate by timing and tone, then count smiles, audible laughs and verbal repeats...

Begin a nightly 10-minute check-in: each partner answers three focused prompts (one reassurance, one need, one concrete action) while the other listens without interruption; limit...

Pack a capsule wardrobe. Spend 20 minutes mapping outfits: 7 core items, 3 tops, 2 bottoms and 2 pairs of shoes – this choice cuts...

Set three short rituals per week: one 15-minute check-in, one 45-minute shared activity, one slow morning in bed. A 2021 survey of 1,200 people in...

Actionable plan: Reserve 60 minutes each week; use a four-part agenda – 5-minute mood signal, 20-minute problem solving, 20-minute planning of joint tasks, 15-minute appreciation...

Concrete script: each check-in uses three prompts – (1) one thing you appreciated this week, (2) one thing that slipped or felt unresolved, (3) one...

Immediate action: keep a 14-day log recording intrusive romantic thoughts, urge intensity 0–10, triggers, mood, sleep; note any drug use, eating changes, relationship contact; these...

Action now: Commit to a six-week accountability plan with measurable rules: 10 minutes of daily check-in, two 30-minute problem-solving sessions per week, and one 60-minute...