Irina Zhuravleva

There is a particular kind of silence that exists inside intimate relationships — the hush that follows when you risk being vulnerable and are met...

Imagine being told that sometimes the most loving choice for a partnership is to stop having sex for a while — it sounds counterintuitive, but...

I will never forget the day I finally heard a name for the collection of odd emotions, behaviors, and repeating mistakes that I couldn’t seem...

Here’s the reality: people with an avoidant attachment style aren’t bad at loving — they’re simply more discreet about it. Society often labels them as...

I made a video about how tone-deaf it can feel when a man walks in after a half-hour commute and then expects another half hour...

People often misunderstand this completely. You can request to be treated with respect, but you cannot compel someone else to respect you. It’s surprising, yet...

When someone with an avoidant attachment style treats you with disrespect, it doesn’t mean you’re worthless — often it means the opposite. Their behavior frequently...

Hey babe, can we go grab that plant I spotted at the nursery? Well, hold on — I was just wondering, don’t you think we...

You may have seen the many disclaimers lately in my courses, videos, and their descriptions — I’ve been clearer than ever about one thing: I’m...

Arguably the single biggest destroyer of relationships is emotional dysregulation: when we become flooded, anxious, or furious and fear that everything inside us is about...

Okay — let’s begin 2023 by reminding ourselves of some basic truths about relationships. One: you deserve respect, kindness, appreciation, consideration and someone who genuinely...

Avoidant partners don’t step back because they don’t care — they step back because closeness can overwhelm them. Breathe. If you love someone who withdraws,...

To spare you the long email: if you’re in a relationship with a man and you constantly feel invisible, unheard, neglected, or consistently dismissed, the...

Okay — question of the day: my girlfriend usually expresses herself from a more masculine energy. Is there anything I can do to help her...

Oh my God, babe — if we buy it today they’ll throw an extra 25% off on top of the 50% they already had, okay?...

Let’s be honest: you’re here because something about this situation feels wrong. You finally find someone who awakens you, you lower your defenses, you begin...

Listen: being in a relationship with an avoidant man is rarely what it appears to be. The real risk isn’t that he doesn’t feel love...

I’m a little ashamed at how simple it turned out to be to revive my wife’s sexual interest. This wasn’t about trickery — I never...

When caregivers fail to give their children proper love, it can seriously distort brain development and warp a person’s sense of what is real. If...

Too often men are portrayed as the ones who always initiate sex, yet in about 30 percent of heterosexual relationships the woman actually has the...

When an avoidant suddenly experiences the real possibility of losing you, everything between you shifts. A relationship once governed by distance and control begins to...

Emotionally healthy people tend to run from avoidant partners. Yet when childhood neglect primes you, you can become especially drawn to someone who keeps pulling...

Okay. Today I want to outline the three red flags that research shows almost always undermine a relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you’ll split up,...

Should men cover the bill on a first date with a woman? If you’re a woman hoping to find a lifelong partner, my answer is...